Sometimes there are some understandable reasons why you and your partner seem to be growing apart but there are times when the reasons are simply shocking.
Men can experience post-traumatic stress-like symptoms after witnessing the birth of a child. This, can leave a man unable to engage sexually with his partner. He or she may not be able to look at the vulva (vaginal area) in the same way he did prior to seeing the birth process.
For women, her vaginal area may have suffered damage, so she may be experiencing postpartum depression, be traumatized by the rigour of the birth experience, or be traumatized by complications related to the health of the baby.
Erectile dysfunction is becoming increasingly common, affecting an estimated 52 percent of men, according to the Massachusetts Male Aging Study. As a matter of fact, at age 40 approximately 40 percent of men are affected and those rates increase to nearly 70 percent in men aged 70 years.
It may just be performance anxiety or g more serious that prevents an erection. For more serious issues, it is best to first get checked by a doctor, especially if they’re suddenly unable to get an erection, as it may be the result of a genitourinary issue or a cardiovascular problem.
When your partner feels like he or she isn’t wanted or desired, it can be a turnoff. In long-term relationships, it can be easy to get into a rut and forget to tell your significant other they are attractive and how much you desire him or her. Tell and show your partner how much you desire him or her—make them feel like you did when you first met.
Sex Without Orgasm
A comprehensive analysis of 33 different studies shows that 75 percent of women never reach orgasm during sex. While it might not happen every time, lack of orgasms during sex could be a deterrent for women.
If a woman feels like all you care about is yourself, chances are she won’t be interested in sex. Sex is about mutual pleasure—if it isn’t doing it for both partners, it’s unlikely that the partner being left hanging will have any interest in getting down the road frequently.
Lack Of Confidence
Irrespective of your age, weight or educational background, not feeling confident in your own skin and with your body can create a void between you and your partner. Couples and sex therapy are useful to help partners communicate more freely around sexual issues, as well as helping to ensure that they can enjoy the sex that they do have.
Practicing mindfulness exercises and learning to be present in the moment is very important, not just around how people feel about their bodies, but can also help you engage in positive sexual experience.