Few things are as bad as suspecting or having a hunch that your partner is cheating and frantically going through their phones for hints. As it turns out, scrolling through your partners phone is not the best way to catch them cheating.
Your cheating concerns are however justified as a 2015 poll found that about 1 in 5 men and women cheat on their partners. If you recognize any of the classic signs you have a cheating partner (including the sound of their voice!), it might be time to take action.
A recent survey by Superdrug Online Doctor, a virtual pharmacy service, provides some interesting insights on this complicated issue. Among the 1,000 Europeans and Americans who suspected their partner of cheating, most used at least one of six methods to check up on their partners: glancing at their partner’s phones, reading their messages, stalking their social media, checking their browsing history, questioning mutual friends, and secretly following them.
As it turns out, the survey found that the most effective strategy happens to be following their partners. In fact, while only 1 in 10 respondents were brave enough to choose this method, nearly 50 percent of them found evidence of their partner cheating.
The researchers however advice that the results shouldn’t be taken too seriously. Aside from its success rate at uncovering evidence, following one’s partner represents a commitment to investigating their loyalty that goes far beyond a casual and natural suspicion.
Repeatedly following a partner, especially if it induces fear, is considered stalking and can have significant emotional effects. In less serious circumstances, it’s still a red flag that something in the relationship is wrong, even if there is a genuine cause for concern in the mind of the suspicious person.
Other top methods according to the survey includes snooping via partners’ messages (39.5 percent), questioning mutual friends (38.2 percent), and checking their partner’s browsing history (32.2 percent). These may be more reasonable strategies than following a significant other.
You also need to be careful, as accessing a partner’s phone without their permission is against the law in the UK and some other countries. In that case, simply communicating with your partner may be the best route to take.