Lies are common to humans. We lie when we’re trying to appear likable. We lie when we’re trying to appear competent, and sometimes we lie simply because we are nothing but deceitful jerks.
According to a research conducted at the University of Massachusetts, as much as 60 percent of people lied at least once during a 10-minute conversation and most told an average of two to three lies.
If you are wondering which of the lies are most common, here are five of people’s favorite fibs.
“Your boyfriend’s great”
A lot of people will tell their friends that their partners are great when he is nothing more than a self-centered womanizer. You however won’t tell your friend that because you don’t want conflict.
It is however your job as a friend to answer important questions as honestly as possible. While your friend may never want to speak to you again for calling out her beau, but if you keep your mouth and things go awry in the future, the next question will be, “Why didn’t you say something?!”
“I love how you cut my hair”
A lot of people have trouble telling beauticians, hair stylists, waiters or whomever they pay for a service that that service stank. In one study, 85 percent of restaurant diners told waiters that their dining experience was good when it wasn’t.
The interesting part of the study was the conclusion that “diners who told white lies to cover up their dissatisfaction were then likely to leave bigger tips than those who did not.”
The reason was adduced to cognitive dissonance, in “which our actions do not match our beliefs, creating a state of psychological and emotional discomfort.” As humans, we tend to resolve cognitive dissonance by overcompensating. Which means that even though you just got a haircut you detest deep down, you still leave your barber a handsome tip.
“I’m fine, honest”
No you’re not, you’re a mess. But it could be that you don’t want to burden your friends or assumes they don’t want to be burdened by your troubles; or you’re trying to avoid feelings that cause you anxiety. If you think deeply about it, you may realize you’ve just overreacted to a slight or you’re too tired to rehash a lousy day.
“I’ll let you go”
Actually, what you want is for them to let you go. Telling someone who is yapping on and on, ”I really have to go” may come off as rude. So by turning it around, you’re putting the onus on yourself—you’re the one holding them up by listening to their endless blather.
White lies, more often than not comes from a sense of compassion, not a desire to deceive.
“You did great”
We all want to know that we’re successful at whatever it is we’re doing. It’s good for our self-esteem. When you are outperformed, you know it and give up, while those who do well feel cheated when they aren’t recognized for their accomplishments.