If you think critically about it, there are times that honesty isn’t the best policy and telling white lies can help to save your relationship.
It’s easy to harm your relationship with the verbal wounds of a truthful tongue and the following phrases might help keep the peace.
“There are times when your partner genuinely wants to know what’s wrong,but the simple truth all they want sometimes are just reassurances. Experts call these type of little white lies “protective buffering,” a method meant to shield your partner from stress that he or she can’t do anything about.
“I understand” to demonstrate deep care
Even if you don’t get all the nuances, it’s important to show you can empathi and key in to the plights of your partner. Empathy—the ability to recognize and share someone else’s feelings—is perhaps the most important part of any relationship and white lies that emphasize it helps build relationships.
“You’re right” to Stop A Fight
You can stop small by relenting, even if you don’t agree with your partner. Letting down your defenses in the heat of an argument might seem counterintuitive, but it is actually very effective.
“You look great”
This is the correct answer to the question, “Do these jeans make me look fat?” Saying otherwise can only be hurtful. Thought broadcasting, or saying every little thing that comes into your head, can be really damaging to a relationship.
“I love you more than anything” as deceptive affection
In a recent study, DePaul University relationship researcher Sean Horan, PhD, examined this form of lying, known as deceptive affection, and found that participants performed fake affectionate acts about three times per week.
As long as the true feelings are there as a foundation, “deceptive affection might actually help maintain a relationship.