Who knew that the way you put an end to your text messages with periods could be considered a problem? Well there are some annoying text habits you may have to consider letting go of.
You edit mid-text
You get a message from your friend asking if you’re mad at a comment she made the night before. You’re not. You write: Whatever, no big deal. You end up deleting “whatever” as you think she might code the fact that you’re mad.
You try again, backspace a little more, decide to invite her over for a hangout, and look at your calendar to figure out a date. And in this time, she is watching those little bubbles that indicate you are typing appear, and disappear, appear, disappear.
She thinks you’re spellchecking your swear words; you’re trying to tell her it’s all good. Those ellipses can speak volumes, even before you say anything. Think (or draft) before you type.
You text at the movies
A darkened theater is one of the most irritating place for you to use your smartphone. While you may not be talking over the phone, but everyone around you can see and be distracted by that glowing blue light.
Religious institutions and restaurants came in at the number two and three most annoying places to pull out a phone. A number of surveys have also found that four in 10 people text during a meal, and more respondents check their phone mid-conversation.
You use periods
While using a period or full stop is the proper way to end a sentence, but that dot may make you seem insincere. This was discovered by researchers at Binghamton University when they showed study participants a series of short exchanges framed as either texts or handwritten notes.
The message was an invite, followed by a one-word response: Sure, Okay, Yeah, or Yup—shown with a period and without. In text messages, the responses that ended with a period were rated as less sincere than those with no punctuation.
The effect was however different with handwritten notes. In a follow-up study, researchers found that a text response with an exclamation mark may make your message seem more sincere than one that ends in nothing (!).
You Fail To Spell check
Typos and incorrect grammar are the biggest turn-offs for single women and men. The other thing everyone finds annoying is responding with short answers, like “k” and “cool.” A little bit more effort might go a long way.
Saying Sorry via Text
The thing with doing this is that you’re not actually saying sorry. You’re not facing the person you wronged and looking them in the eye when you ask forgiveness. And they’re not getting the chance to see that you really feel bad.
A social scientist and researcher from MIT, Sheryl Turkle believes “A face-to-face apology is such a classic place where we learn empathy,” she said. “If you’re apologizing to me, I soften because I get to see that you’re genuinely upset—you get to see that I have compassion for you. But if you type ‘I’m sorry’ and hit send, nothing happens.” Texting an apology is not terrible, but you both get more out of it if you do it face to face.