All The Signs That Shows The Person You’re With Is Using You

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So, you a good guy and you love being there for your woman all the time because it doesn’t just make you feel good when she asks you for help but because it’s who you are.

You don’t care if she asks you for money, time, for you to build something. As a matter of fact, you do it for her without her even having to ask.

You’re most likely her personal genie because you will do anything and everything to keep her happy but the question is when does it go too far? When does it start to seem like she keeps you around ONLY for the things you do for her? These six signs show that she is using you.

She Always Expects Things From You
If she has become used to having you do things for her, that’s a red flag. A good boyfriend would want to do things for his girlfriend, but a good girlfriend isn’t going to expect you to do them.

If she gets mad during the few times you couldn’t do her favours, then it’s pretty obvious this girl is using you. For instance, if you give her money to offset a bill and the one time you can’t, she throws a fit.

She has become used to you footing her bill so she isn’t even trying to save the money on her own to pay it. She’s definitely using you.

She Hardly Talks About You
She doesn’t talk about you to her friends. If her male friends still hit on her, and her female friends don’t know you, then she has no intention of really being with you. She keeps you around for what you can do, be it sex, being her personal ATM, or what have you. She’s using you.

Everything Is One sided
If you spoil her and she fails to reciprocate, then she’s using you. A one-sided relationship is just that. It means one person is gaining all the benefits of the relationship while the other person maintains the relationship.

If you find out that she does nothing for you, at all, you need to move on. Giving someone your all without getting anything in return only works in movies or cheesy R&B songs and you should put a stop to her using you.

She Plans Everything
If you find her making the major decisions all of the time, then you’re nothing more than an accessory to her. If you find yourself going to the movies she likes to see, the restaurants she wants to eat in and you never have to talk about the things you like such as a football game, she’s using you.

She likes the idea of having a man on her arm, not necessarily you. Any man that will be at her beck and call will do, as long as he kisses her butt and you can be replaced with the snap of a finger.

She Doesn’t Want To Meet Your Friends
When you’re dating someone in a normal relationship, they’ll eventually want to meet your friends and family. If she shows no interest in meeting your friends,then she has no invested interest whatsoever in who you are as a person. Once again, she’s using you for what she needs and nothing more.

Sex Is Not On The Table
If you’ve been taking her out for months, buying her stuff and basically being a boyfriend without any form of intimacy, you’re being used. Truly, some women say they want to wait till marriage which is fine.

But, if she hasn’t so much as held your hand, kissed you, let you get to second base, and you’ve been “dating” her for a year or more, she’s most likely using you. The best thing to do is to man up and take a walk.



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