Having sex with a partner for the first time can be a pretty nerve-wracking experience. There are a lot of unknowns and uncertainty which could make things awkward. Whether it’s your first time having sex at all or your first time with a new partner, follow these tips to make sure things go smoothly.
Compliment: It is important that both partners feel confident in bed. To help make your partner more comfortable and more secure, compliment them. Tell them how good they look and how much you look forward to getting intimate. Remind them of how attracted you are to them and endeavour to approach this with honesty so it would not sound like just an empty line.
Foreplay: Foreplay is a very important part of sex and even more crucial when it’s the first time. Both partners need to warm into things. Foreplay not only arouses but relaxes. It helps you get more comfortable with each other’s body and also helps build anticipation. This will make sex so much better.
Communicate: This is your first time with this person and they are not mind-readers, you have to communicate your needs. Use words, sounds and body language to let them know what works. If they are pleasuring you, make sure it is clear to them. If you prefer something else or of something is not working, subtly pass across the message. First times can get awkward because it is sort of like groping in the dark, any amount of light would be appreciated. So, help them please you by communicating.
No experiments: Perhaps you like to get a lot freaky. You might enjoy such kinky acts as spanking or you like having sex in acrobatic positions. The first time is not the right time to do this. Unless you have both previously clearly expressed your intent in going the extra mile, simply stick with the basic moves. It is not the time to show off sex moves that might make your partner recoil or get scared. You want to make this feel good for them, not show off that you are some sort of sex champion. So, just focus on their pleasure. Go with simple missionary or even cowgirl and save the kinkiness for another time.
Be gentle: Again, unless expressly agreed upon, avoid roughness or aggressiveness. Being gentle will help you both get into the groove of things better. The first time sex is when you explore your sexual chemistry and get to know your partner’s body/needs so take your time and enjoy the moment. Make things sensual and gentle. You will be glad you did.
The aftermath: After sex, do not simply get up and move on. Take some time to enjoy some aftermath bonding. You do not need to ask a bunch of questions like if they enjoyed it or if they orgasmed. Simply be together and go with the flow. This is not the time to keep scores.