Nigerian actress Tonto Dikeh birthed her baby – code-named ‘Baby X’ – on Tuesday, and her husband gave her a ‘Push Present’ (also called a post-birth gift) of a Chopard diamond wristwatch and necklace. The new-born is being christened Omodayo.
The jazzy mother posted, “Today I experienced the Greatest Miracle known to man. I can’t begin to explain the joy I feel, it’s super awesome. I bless the Lord almighty for his protection/Safety and Strength and the birth of my Baby.”
She posted the gift on Instagram with the caption:
‘Thanks to my OLOWO ORI MI(MRX),Love you so much. And my Beautiful Aunty Nike(Aka woman with a golden heart) @niketojo for helping with the pick out of my PushPresent. @sir_rozlah Tnx for the DRY edit????? #CHOPARD #DIAMONDS #ZADDOKHOUSTON# #GRATEFULHEART. When someone loves you they don’t have to say it, you can tell by the way they treat you?.
???? Thanks to my OLOWO ORI MI(MRX),Love you so much.. And my Beautiful Aunty Nike(Aka woman with a golden heart) @niketojo for helping with the pick out of my PushPresent.. @sir_rozlah Tnx for the DRY edit????? #CHOPARD #DIAMONDS #ZADDOKHOUSTON# #GRATEFULHEART When someone loves you they don't have to say it,you can tell by the way they treat you?
This display by Mr Oladunni Churchill, Tonto’s hubby, has caused discussions in closed quarters which begs the question, ”Should Mothers Receive ‘Push Presents’ For Giving Birth?”.
For those who don’t know what a ‘Push Present’ is, Wikipedia is here to help:
“A push present (also known as a push gift, baby mama gift or baby bauble) is a present a father gives to the mother to mark the occasion of her giving birth to their child. In practice the present may be given before or after the birth, or even in the delivery room. The giving of push presents has supposedly grown in the United States in recent years.  A push gift is any type of present loved ones give to a woman who has recently given birth to a child. It is considered a nouveau riche practice in Britain”.
It’s worthy to note that other stars who have also received post-birth gifts include, Beyonce who received a blue sapphire ring, and Snooki who got a pandora bracelet.
Some people shared their thoughts on ‘Push Presents’ via wittyandpretty:
- “It’s not a Southern thing. I have a friend who gets Tiffany diamond stackable rings for each kid, another who gets Hermes jewelry. It’s ridiculous. And I have a strong and unpopular opinion that it’s just another way for needy women to get presents for doing something that women have been doing for thousands of years.”
- “I mean, if you get gifts for hosting parties, why not for hosting another human being in your body for nine months? Personally my husband bought me jewelry after both. Unexpected but very appreciated. He says it was a thank you for doing ‘that.’ He thinks men get a huge pass and the least they can do is say thanks officially.”
- “It’s not a southern thing, it’s a rich people thing… have you ever heard of a push present that wasn’t jewelry or diamonds or cars, etc.? ‘Congratulations honey! I got you some base layer tank tops from The GAP’…”
- “When I married my husband, that was my present; when I had kids, they were my presents. Push presents are stupid.”
- “I don’t judge a woman who gets a push present. I only judge a woman who expects a push present.” (From a man)
- “I did get a Rolex for ‘sorry you had to get cut open.’ I didn’t expect it but I was so touched my hubby had thought about it before. I plan on giving the watch to my daughter when she’s old enough.”
- “Mine was a LV purse and honey I deserved it! Push gifts are becoming more and more common to serve as a “thank you” for having gone through the entire pregnancy/delivery process. Push gifts range from diamonds and designer labels, to experiences like a vacation, to something sentimental like a bracelet engraved with your baby’s name.
- “I think push presents are perfectly fine and people should buy according to what they can afford. After carrying a baby for nine months, pushing it out, then probably being its first go-to for the next 25 years… heck yea I should get a push present! People only think it’s bad because of the name. Just think of it as a first Mother’s Day gift.”
- “Definitely not a fan. Just another way to try to get people to equate love and pride with spending money.”
After reading this, (if you’re a woman) please do not frustrate your man to get you a push present. It’s most likely he doesn’t even know what it is in which case, please refer him to this article. Your man should get you whatever he loves.
He might not be able to get the woman an exclusive diamond choppard watch like Tonto got but experience has taught us ‘it’s not always greener on the other side’.
Best be happy without push presents, than go through divorce tomorrow after showing-off your post-birth gift to the world.
Now, let me dream of my private jet post-birth gift.
What do you think? Do you support or oppose ”Push Present’? Please share your thoughts.