Shonda Rhimes and Oprah Winfrey on marriage
It is usually said that a woman’s happiest day is the day she gets married, but for two of the most important women in media, TV mogul Oprah Winfrey and screen writer Shonda Rhimes, that isn’t the case.
Both women had a chat about marriage when Rhimes made an appearance on Oprah’s SuperSoul Sunday, and Rhimes had revealed she always wanted kids, but not the marriage life.
“[It] feels obvious and maybe silly or something to people who are married or people who are older, people who have been through it,” Rhimes said.
“But if you’re a woman in your thirties or forties, that’s a big deal. Everybody’s asking you all the time if it’s going to happen … There’s a huge amount of pressure. I’m one of those people, since I was 5, I could tell you I was going to have kids. I could tell you I was going to have three. I could tell you they were going to be girls,” she added.
“But I have never wanted to get married. I never played bride. I was never interested. I don’t know what it is; I never wanted to get married.”
Oprah also decided to share her own experiences, and why she had made the decision to not get married to longtime boyfriend Stedman Graham.
“I was supposed to do a book at the same time … and the wedding and the book were happening around the same time. We were on our way from the book party and Stedman said he did not want to have his wedding disturbed by all these people asking me about the book (which I ended up not doing),” Oprah said.
“I said, ‘OK. All right. So he said, ‘We should just postpone this wedding. I said, ‘OK.’ And that was it. We have never discussed it again.”
“What I realized is, I don’t want to be married,” Oprah said. “Because I could not have the life that I created for myself … I knew that I couldn’t do it.”