HELP!! ORAL ADDICTION! My Husband Can’t Sleep Without Oral Sex

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HELP!! ORAL ADDICTION! My Husband Can’t Sleep Without Oral Sex

Can you marry a man with an oral addiction?

As I prep for my amazing day at my amazing job I encountered a woman with a story so shocking, I had to share.




Different People, different Issues. If you are single, everyone is counting down to when you’ll get married.

When you get married, everyone is counting down to when you’ll give birth, when you give birth, everyone is counting down to how cute your baby will be, and how long your marriage will last.

Everyone is always counting down on everyone’s business except theirs.

And, some people’s business is ORAL ADDICTION.

Quick definition: An Oral Addiction is when someone who is addicted, hooked or has a fetish for sexual experiences that doesn’t involve penetration or canal sex.

This addiction stems from both emotional, psychological or physical reasons and can be dangerous to the addict or anyone going into a relationship or life-long partnership with them.


This lady, young and beautiful (no homo), was obviously at a very bad place emotionally and psychologically and the worst part was she wasn’t even considering leaving the marriage as she had nothing of hers to fall  back on. Plus the stigma of being an unmarried or divorced woman in this Western part of Africa was enough to make her endure her marriage, rather than enjoy it.

Here’s her story – Freely lend voice to her dilemma.



Hello 360nobs, Thank You For Sharing –

I would like to remain anonymous. My problem began as a joke because when my hubby (then boyfriend) told me he had an oral addiction, I thought it was a manageable addiction. Something I could change or control. The saying be careful what you wish for  is so true in more ways than one. I have always wished for this kind of relationship. One where we are both as adventurous and free-spirited and trust me it was fun till I stopped wanting the fun and just wanted the man.

We’ve been married for 3 years now. We have a beautiful 2-year-old baby boy and I  am pregnant with another. For 3 years, my husband has never gone to bed without eating me or having me get down on him. Sometimes it gets tiring cos my head is already wrapped around the idea that this oral addiction has been transferred to me indirectly as well.

When I was pregnant with my first baby, I had to secretly arrange for a girl every night for one year for my hubby to sate his oral addiction because he refuses to go down when am pregnant. He never has penetrative or canal sex with them, just head and blow-job which at first I thought was manageable; Better to have a man whose addiction you can control, or so I thought. Most times he invites me to watch.


Help: My husband’s oral addiction is killing me – (IMGS –


I am presently 6 months along with my second baby and every night for the last six months a girl comes to “eat” and be “eaten” by my husband.

I have never told anyone and I’m freely telling you because I trust you enough and I desperately need to talk to someone about this oral addiction before I lose my mind.

I love my husband, He is the love of my life and I can vouch that he hasn’t slept with anyone else besides me. He never sleeps out, and whenever he has to, even if its just for a night, he always asks me to accompany him. Asides his Oral Addiction, my husband is a rare gem and I adore him and that’s why I am so confused. I am torn between never getting pregnant again so I can just be available all the time for him. He takes care of me so any option to get a job is off the list. He doesn’t want anything to share his time with me and honestly I sort of feel enslaved to his desires.

When I think of leaving the marriage, I see all the problems and not one solution. I dare not even talk to him about changing else he’ll just ignore my question, tell me to call the girl (bitch in my mind) and get down to work on satisfying his oral addiction.

I’m beginning to think this oral addiction is a fetish of some sort for him. If you or anyone else can just give me a good, honest, executable advice, esp. anyone who has been in a similar situation it would go a long way to help me and my sanity right now.


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  1. Why would you even marry such a man?! You knew he was an oral addict and of everyone in this world to say I Do to, you chose him?!. My dear you’re really in a dilemma and i would advise you to stop being a child and grow up. He is your husband and not your god. If he won’t change for you then maybe he never really loved you to begin with and you have just wasted three years of your life.

    1. Love they say comes in strange ways, shapes, and forms, hers came in a very very very very strange way and she didn’t even notice it cos she thought she was in love. You are right by advising her to grow up and stop being a child.

  2. this is just ridiculous. the kind of things that women go through just to stay married. my dear, i don’t know what age you live in but this century isn’t for naivety anymore. which one is you cant find a job? then go to your village. or you squat with friends. you must be willing to make a move and not sit in your house luxuriously waiting for who will save you. move my friend.

  3. There is nothing prayer cannot do,grow up and go on ur knees beg for forgiveness for everything from God wake him up in d middle of the night and beg him to control his emotions before it destroys dear the Lord is your strength.

    1. You’re right. Putting God first in the family unifies decisions and makes it easy for understanding one another. But God will only help you when you are willing to help yourself.

      1. Don’t listen to these stupid fucking religion nuts. They’re brainwashed into thinking prayer does anything at ALL when there’s evidence to prove that it clearly doesn’t.

        Love and marriage does require sacrifices, but happiness is not one of them. He can’t change. Just keep that in mind. Do with that what you will.

    2. Well said and agree completely. Except for the “getting on your knees” part. That probably won’t help the situation.

    3. That is the worse advice I have ever read. Prayer has never solved one problem and never will From girls being abducted, raped and murdered, to children being molested, to people praying for recovery from cancer or escape from abuse. God has not raised a finger for any one of them, either because he does not exist or chooses not to intervene. You can only help yourself. If your sanity is at risk you need to move out as soon as possible.
      My only question is, how are you able to procure a girl for him every night to do oral for him?? He sounds like a pig. It makes me wonder if your post is really just a prank. In the unlikely instance that your post is genuine, I suggest you speak to a counselor Now and do what it takes to protect yourself Now. Good luck.

  4. First of your marriage now involves three people that’s something I personally can’t comprehend. He’s not having sex with you, if you claimed to have a sexual addiction and needed a guy to penetrate you how would he deal with that. I think there’s resentment and strife you’re refusing to acknowledge.
    Why can’t you get a job? I don’t understand that part. Women need to empower themselves and think about the future. God forbid but if he passes or falls ill or even says he’s done with the marriage what will you do?
    You’re responsible for two children who didn’t ask to come to this world. You need to address how this is an issue for you and your marriage and ask him if he’s willing to admit he has an issue and explore ways to get help.
    If you’re religious pray for him or more like both of you should pray together. Your marriage involving a third party is adultery in my opinion and that is a big issue in your marriage already. You say he’s not penetrating her and you watch and don’t say you’re okay with it ‘cos you call her a bitch.
    If he cares about you and your marriage he’ll listen and take you seriously.
    if he doesn’t you need to find a way to regain you mental health cos you said it’s driving you crazy. Talk to someone who will understand where you’re coming from and counsel both of you and not just say stay there, divorce is a sin and similar quotes that will make you feel bad.
    and ultimately you know what to do in your hearts of hearts and what will make you truly happy.
    I wish you well

    1. You are right Damie, I mean if anything should happen to the man, with all her hopes placed on him, life would only get harder for her. She should make a decision to be her own woman too,and not just a sex mate and baby factory. Thank you for commenting.

  5. Thank you to everyone commenting. The truth is, we just can’t get it all. Sometimes the weakness we think we can tolerate turns out to be what puts us off at the end of the day. Women especially need to know just how much they can endure because marriage should and must be enjoyed. Life is too short for anything otherwise.
    Thank you and keep the comment coming.

  6. No marriage is perfect. The “3rd party” while your pregnant is just a tool, a sex toy. The one that needs to grow up is your husband. He also needs counselling as well as the both of you. It sounds like he needs to equate bedtime with a different activity and learn how to appreciate intimacy as a way to connect with someone you love and not just a physical release so he can go to sleep. Because it bothers you…. he needs to find alternate ways of satisfying that urge. For example, giving you a massage. You using a masturbatory tool on him. But most of all… counselling. If you don’t mind procuring the girl or him using an alternate while your pregnant, then there is nothing wrong with that. But it sounds like you are resenting it. And that IS an issue.

    The Bible says that we are supposed to remain celibate, but it also says that if you can’t control the burn, that it is better to marry than to burn. This is not just a simple act of adultery, but an actual addiction. Everyone has a vice whether they admit it or not. Prayer helps you and can help your husband. That is why there are lots of sexual addiction counsellors. But if he is as loving as you say, then he should want to try and allay your fears and work on himself and your relationship. If he doesn’t, then you have to make the decision… is this the kind of relationship that you want to teach your children is “ideal” and acceptable? What if his addiction was gambling? Drugs? Alcohol? You would be called an enabler. But because you consider this your “wifely duty” you have been trying to follow thru on your “obligations”. But one persons addiction affects the entire family whether or not it is a mainstream addiction or something as odd as this one.

    Do not feel ashamed. You have every right to be a loving and supportive wife, but you also have every right to set boundaries and expect your husband to be loving and supportive and come to a compromise.

  7. It’s a corruption of the flesh…it reminds me of how a person tries drugs or alcohol for the first time, and instantly become hooked. Trust me, he knows that he has a problem. Funny though, I bet his dad wouldn’t agree, especially not his mother, open minded as one might be, there is moderation in all things. Appealing to the rational and reasonable nature of someone overshadowed by arrogant and selfish ways is challenging. If his desire for that is so strong, reinforce yourself by considering certain realities, for example, he didn’t just develops this addiction, how was it satisfied before you, when you were dating, surely you weren’t there every night, and how you have accepted things on his terms, love wouldn’t do wrong to make something right, desperation and frustration will. I wish that you were close to his parents to talk thou them, I might get angry, but he would have to respect it. It would certainly force him to examine his self. The rest would be on him. Free yourself of that burden. Hope this helps.

  8. By the way, 167.4 IQ, so intelligent about academic issues, but not so bright with the more delicate things concerning life. Your disbelief in prayer is systemic from things that haven’t anything to do with god, in as such your impetus for that conclusion is a result of you not appreciating the values of faith and hope. Even now you hope for a fast recovery for a sick one, or you feel confident that that sick one will get better…synonymous with faith and hope…think about it.

  9. My wife has a oral addiction something I loved when dating her and up to I aged losing much of my ability to maintain an erection She now has several FWB guys she “services” regularly something that I have become accepted with. I an glad she is able to be content while I have a happy marriage.

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