ASK NK: Dear NK, To Text Or Not To Text?

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NK is someone you can always count on to get you in check because she gives it to you like it is. Each week, you can email a question of your choice and Instagram name to ask.nikolai@yahoo.com for her honest thoughts and opinions. NK will respond to three questions on Saturdays and give those special 360Nobs readers a shout out on her post. She’s leaving no stone unturned and answering all your questions about entertainment, relationships, friendships, sex, love, education and much more. Ask away and don’t hesitate!

Dear NK,

Munachi P

There is one guy who I’ve been taking to for about 2 months. He’s pretty good to me, but my friends don’t like him. They say that he is rude to them and that I should dump him. It’s hard for me because I don’t want to choose between my friends and my man. What should I do about this? Help me!

NK

Nne mo, how are you doing first off? Hope everything else has been well. I bet this is definitely a tough situation for you. It’s hard when your man and friends don’t get along. You have some friends who have been in your life for a long period of time and have helped you make some life-changing decisions. Some are new in your life and you want them to know that you treasure their relationship. Now that you’re boyfriend has come along, they fell uncomfortable due to his unapproachable demeanor (as they say). Iwould like for you to first of all ask your friends to properly explain to you what their problem is with him. This way you can find out if he’s offensive, inappropriate or just misunderstood around them.

After this, speak with him and evaluate both sides of their stories. Sometimes, friends can be catty and just want to ruin a friend’s relationship mainly due to jealousy and a number of other childish reasons. I don’t want you to fall victim in their hands.

Emma J

NK, there is a guy that I like. I have been talking with him for a few weeks and we have only seen each other three times. I don’t like to talk on the phone much, I am more of a texter. He is inconsistent with his texts and he mainly tells me this is because of work. It makes me feel like I’m not a priority in his life and that makes me upset. I really like him, but I don’t want to continue seeing him if he really doesn’t like me. What do you think I should do?

NK

Emma, I have definitely learnt over the years that guys are HARD to read.

They don’t invest their feelings as quickly as women in relationships and give off mixed signals at times. A lot of guys aren’t very expressive through texts and don’t feel like they’re really getting to know a girl just through messages. He may prefer phone calls and those honestly are more personal than text messages. Imagine…talking over the phone once a day and sending a text once a day? Wouldn’t you prefer the call? I know I would.

Also, you should be able to mention this at least once more to him. If you notice that he makes more of an effort to communicate more with you, give him another chance. If he doesn’t and you don’t feel as if he is accommodating your needs, it’s clear that you’re not a priority in his life. It sucks, but at least you won’t waste your time beating around the bush.

Mariam B

NK, what did you think about Seyi Shay’s performance with

Neyo at the 2015

MAMAS?

NK

Seyi Shay is one of my favorite female Nigerian artists. She always brings positive energy and gives a high quality performance on stage. I thought it was an amazing collaboration and I was highly pleased with the performance. Knowing about Neyo’s Nigerian roots made me enjoy it even more.

Nikolai Obee

Nikolai Obee

Nikolai Obee (a.k.a Ms. Don't Use Me For Example) has a highly exuberant, but yet quirky personality. She’s a free spirit at heart and is constantly looking to broaden her horizons. She’s always open to others viewpoints and is an insightful listener, but never hesitant to speak her mind. Nikolai’s the typical girl next door, just with an animated twist! Follow her on Instagram @NikolaiObee Follow her blog @Nikolaiobee.blogspot.com

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