Everyone wants a relationship but not everyone knows or understand the key things to make it very successful. Every relationship needs a lot of things to make it work. Apart from love, patience and being each other’s best friends, listed below are some of the key secrets of every successful relationship:
#1. CLEAR COMMUNICATION IS “VERY” IMPORTANT
Everybody talks but not everybody communicate. When two people communicate, a clear message is passed and understood but talking is putting string of words together with no clarity. Couples who always shout at each other do not have a healthy relationship because the message they are trying to pass to the other person is not done properly. Every couple must know how to talk to the other person. Study him/her properly to know how to say certain things. Timing also is very important when communicating with your partner. Also have in mind that your partner is not a mind reader or a superman that knows everything. Say what is on your mind and never pile up grudges in your mind waiting for the right time to pour it all out. Arguments and fights are prevented when couples communicate clearly with each other.
#2. EVERYONE HAS A BAD DAY, SOMETIMES
There are days we wake up very cranky and in a very sour mood. It gets really bad that we often like to stay alone and not have anyone disturb us. On days like that, your partner will be at his worst and you have to understand he has something bothering him. Go to him and ask him what the problem is. His mood swing may be as a result of something that happened to him at work or pressure from family, friends or his boss. If he doesn’t want to talk about it, leave him alone and let him sort his emotions out. Do not take it personal when he says he wants to be alone.
#3. FORGIVE HIM AS YOU WILL FORGIVE YOURSELF
It is very easy to forgive ourselves when we do some things we promised not to do again but it is not so easy to do the same for others especially when it is someone we love and trust. Putting yourself in his shoes can help you understand why he did certain things. Understand that a person’s mistake doesn’t outrightly convict him as a terrible person. For every time you want to push him away, always ask “what if it was me?”.
#4. PRIVACY IS ESSENTIAL
There is nothing wrong with letting everyone know you are in love and posting pictures of both of you on social networks but there is everything wrong if we know every single detail about your relationship. When all the details of your relationship is known by everybody, your relationship may be in grave danger. Keep your private business, very private. Keep outsiders guessing what is going on in your relationship.
#5. NO FIGHTING IN PUBLIC OR IN FRONT OF YOUR FRIENDS
It is normal for every couple to quarrel, once in a while. It is an indispensable part of every healthy relationship but it is bad to quarrel in front of other people. Fighting in front of friends, families or colleagues say the wrong things about the both of you. It may also make you both lose your integrity and self worth. No matter how great the urge to fight is, do not do it in public. Take it to your car or wait till you get home.
#6. BE TOTALLY COMMITTED
Couples who can rely on each other every time have long lasting healthy relationships and that can only happen when you both are dedicated to each other. When you are committed to your partner, it becomes easy to do things for each other without complaining and you wont hurt your partner because you are so committed into making the relationship a happy one.
#7. KINDNESS IS NEVER OVERRATED
Everyone appreciates an act of kindness. Be kind to your significant other. Do not wait for him to get you stuff or do something for you before you reciprocate. If he does not appreciate your act of kindness or always take advantage of it, you should break up with him. Kindness breeds understanding between two couples which is a key ingredient to a successful relationship.
#8. YOU CAN STILL HAVE FRIENDS
The fact that you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you cant have friends. It is good to keep friends and hang out with them. You need to keep your relationship fresh by giving yourselves space. Keep up with your friends and family, all the time.
#9. LAUGHING IS THE BEST MEDICINE
Laughing is an anti-depressant and also anti-anxiety drugs. The best part is that, it is very inexpensive and does more wonders than any man-made drugs. Couples that laugh together very often have a longer lasting relationship. Laughter bonds couples together, a lot.
#10. KEEP THINGS ALWAYS FRESH
No relationship is too old for date nights and surprises. Take yourselves out as often as you can. Plan surprise dinners and romantic getaways. Keep things alive by doing things that attracted him to you in the first place. Do not get too comfortable and neglect chances to make your spouse happy.