The other day, I was chatting with this guy I met up online that I really liked. Dude was cute and all and so far we had only said hi, hello and stuff like that. We started catching feelings and then exchanged BBM pins and he promised to ping me later. I was excited when the moment came. I think I even made up a little so that I could take a selfie and put on my DP as a current pic.
We got pinging and it was going well until fine boy started asking what I was wearing and if I had ever had a threesome before.
I know we were flirting but he didn’t have to go that far. I immediately shut the door on our pings and I haven’t replied him since then.
He can like to carry his fineness and take it elsewhere.
So here’s the thing about quick messages and chats. People use them to communicate, banter and sometimes to flirt. However, this is not so easy with some people and I am going to offer some tips for such people based on my experience and what my girls and I talk about.
1. Don’t Get Too Sexual. Duh!!
I know you guys like to always make the first move when it comes to sex but you gotta chill in the initial stages. You don’t want to scare the babe away as it was in my case. If you guys are pinging and chatting coolly and you drop a sex bomb, she might freak out. This will reduce her attraction towards you. The best way is to make your moves when you finally meet her in person. We girls always think that once you mention sex in your pings, you are masturbating at the same time. Sorry, you can’t blame us. We have seen all sorts.
2. Humor Her
Don’t be too serious with your pings. Make her laugh as you flirt with her. How to do so? Tease her. Start with small doses and see if she catches on because some of us babes are so hard to please. The best way to go about it if she doesn’t like you teasing, is to tell her something about your day, what you saw in a bus, what your lecturer did in class. If you’re not sure of that, tell her a family joke. Maybe about your younger one or funny stuff your siblings do. She will appreciate a family joke better. But don’t insult your family or she might feel you would do the same about her to someone else.
3. No Long Tin
Don’t talk too much. Keep to the Twitter rule. Make it short. One, two sentences or she might get bored. Plus, girls like when a guy leaves them wanting more. So, don’t bore her; try to keep her guessing.
4. Little Is Much
Just like you keep your pings short, keep the number of times you ping her short too. My girlfriend had to delete a guy because he just wouldn’t leave her alone. He pinged her all the freaking time. Don’t do that. You can even take a two-day break and return on the third day. When she asks where you have been, tell her you didn’t want to be this weird stalker, plus you were busy with school work and stuff. She would understand and then you’ll watch her want you to chat longer with you.
5. The Phone Is Not Your Wingman
I know guys who are such heartstoppers behind their phones but when you meet them face to face, they have no liver. The reason why you’re flirting with your pings is for it to lead somewhere. You don’t want the babe to think you’re intimidated by her. Fix a date and continue flirting in real life. The problem with most guys is when they meet in real life, they want to jump right into sex. smh.
6. At Least, Ping in English
There are so many instant messages abbreviations like lol! lwkmd, rotfl, wullnp and so on. And somehow, those of us who know them think everyone else does. But this has caused a lot of breaks in communication. If you put too many abbreviations in your pings, she might not get what you mean. You are flirting, so your message has to be clear. Use your abbreviations only where and when she would understand them better. Always use the common ones and try not to ping like an imbecile.
7. Ping at the Right Time
First, ask her when it is best to ping. Also get to know the basics about her if she’s a student or a worker and what time is the most convenient for her. Also know what her daily routines are like. She might have a boring job and it is up to you to liven up her work hours. Classes might be boring too, so that particular time frame might be perfect for you. Just don’t do it very early in the morning or too late at night. Also avoid when she’s out with friends. You might be ignored.
8. Don’t PING!!!
One of the most annoying things guys do is to start a chat with a PING!!! It is that buzz that sometimes vibrates some people’s phones and nothing screams impersonal like a PING!!! Don’t do that. It’s kind’a rude. You could start by saying ‘hey…’ or ‘hey (insert her name)’ or ‘sup girl’. No petnames or cute names. Make it cordial.
9. You’re Not a Reporter
How can you like a girl, and you’re flirting with her and you send her broadcasts? Are you a reporter? No, that’s so not cool. She will just turn you down. For everyone, broadcasts are annoying. And if you do it to a girl you’re fancying, you’re simply telling her that you’re a disturber. Don’t even dare to send broadcast message to her alone; stick to the reason why you’re there in her contact list.
Flirting is fun. Keep it light and simple and go after the girl you fancy.