Do you reminisce on your dating life and wish there were some people you could undate? Those people you wish for the love of you never even made it past the hello stage?
Yeah, we all have those and its okay to have them. It just makes us human. What is not okay is to repeat this mistake. Here are a few guidelines that might help you not to end up with these types of people again.
THE INDEPENDENT PEOPLE
They swear to you that they are independent. They pay their own bills, buy their own stuff and live on their own paychecks. And this is true. Except they still run to mummy or daddy to check before they make real life decisions, they are emotionally dependent on a big figure in their lives and they honestly can’t move forward unless a mentor tells them to.
Being financially independent isn’t the only type of independence. If your person is still very much dependent on other people emotionally, then you should not touch with a nepa pole.
They are unclean; their house, their car, their pouch and even their thoughts. These types of people should only pop up in your mind when you are thinking of your pet peeves not when you are thinking of people to date.
Animashaun in yoruba means one who has and gives freely without holding back. In other words, if you meet someone who gives out his private business (I am sure you know what I mean) without holding back, you might want to leave this one be.
They just pine and whine and when they are not pining and whining they are getting warmed up to pine and whine. Listen, it is hard enough to be a Nigerian, you don’t want to add babysitting an adult to the long list of your worries.
THE ONE WHO SUFFOCATES YOU
It looked cute at first that they would just drop by at your office or house at very awkward times in the day, unannounced. But these days, you swear that it is becoming creepy and you don’t like that they say “look out of your window, I have a surprise” and they are really there in person every damn time.
You need to be loved not choked.
THE ONE WHO NOTHING IS EVER GOOD ENOUGH FOR
Dating someone who is hard to please can exhaust you and snuff the life out of you. It is frustrating having to go to the ends of the world and then have all your efforts thrown back in your face.
Apart from the fact that this type of individual would frustrate you, you would not be happy with them and it would not be a healthy relationship. And who wants to be unhappy?
THE ONE WHO DISRESPECTS EVERYONE
Disrespectful and outrightly rude people should date themselves. So except you fall into that category, you should never hook up with people like this.
There is a very long list on the types of people you should never date but they vary from individual to individual, so if your own type isn’t here, it doesn’t mean its okay.