Guys, More Ways to Please Her

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We men are very competitive and want to be the best in everything there is, be it our games, works, and love lives. But there is another side to men especially when it comes to loving our women; we give up when we feel helpless especially in a love/relationship situation. All men are definitely not the same, and every circumstance is different, but one subliminal trait that crops up every now and then is when a man just meets a woman he is very happy to be in love with, he goes all out to impress her and woo her, especially during the time generally referred to as ‘the infatuation period’. But as the relationship blossoms and the woman is trying to correct a few flaws of the man, or the couple is having a few fights, the man starts to lose interest in the relationship.

Don’t get me wrong, not that all guys give up on romance easily, but most guys are convinced that most women nag and will easily see any little form of complaints as nagging. Though I am not saying you won’t meet some women out there who will nag you to your death, but still most normal women that I know simply want to be happy in their relationships, hence the complaints once in a while.

So, as a man, the questions you need to ask yourself are, do I want to be the best man in the whole world for my woman? Do I want her to feel lucky and special for having a guy who is as awesome as I am? Do I want all of her friends to envy her for snagging such a perfect catch, and wish they were in her shoes? If you ask yourself those questions, and your answers are yes, yes, and yes. Then, you need to find more ways to impress your woman and keep her happy all the time. And to keep your woman pleased and happy, you need to constantly think of the 80-20 rule. It states: 80% of the problems are caused by just 20% of the issues. So you need to find ways to sort the 20% of the issues so that you can have a blissful relationship with your girlfriend.

So, my post today is for men to use these 10 relationship tips to continuously woo their women, in order to please them with each passing day.

  1. Communicate.

Living through a relationship with hidden resentments and confusions could be tempting especially when you are trying too hard to avoid confrontations and small fights. But I tell you, communication is the key. Try to have more of face-to-face communication rather than mediated ones especially on phones and social media. When you talk about an issue, someone might feel bad and sometimes hurt, but it is better to talk about things anyway.


  • Don’t take her for granted.


Your girlfriend is not obligated to do something for you just because you feel that way. Relationship is not an exclusive job of a woman, so don’t make taking care of you her only priority in life. Strive to make impact in her life too, realize that she is an equal part of the whole, and treat her accordingly.


  • Show appreciation.


If you love your woman and she’s a very important part of your life, you should always tell her how you feel every now and then. Learn to say thank you for every little thing, from paying you a visit, to cooking for you and every other thing. To a woman, there’s no greater feeling than being appreciated for all the things she does for you. So, give her a hug and a kiss, tell her how much she means to you, and how much you appreciate those things whether big or small.


  • Don’t make decisions for her without asking.


No matter how big your financial role is in the relationship, especially when in a committed relationship, you still need to remember that you don’t own your girlfriend. You should never make decisions on your woman’s behalf without asking her opinion. You are not her Lord and Master.


  • Stop staring when she is around.


It’s a fact that we men stare, some of us sometimes, and some of us all the time. But if you must stare at someone for any reason, especially when your girlfriend is around, talk about that person with her instead of trying to sneak glances. You can call her attention to the way the woman is walking or how her dress does not fit, or anything. Just say something to your woman and don’t just stare like a goat.  If you’re in public with your woman, give her your attention; don’t give someone else more attention and importance than her.


  • Don’t be brutally honest.


This is very crucial. Your woman might always tell you to always be frank and truthful with her, I agree you should. But don’t be brutally honest especially when it comes to criticisms. We all make mistakes and might appear as failures in certain aspect of our lives. But just know that there is always a nicer way to say or point out a bad thing.


  • Indulge in romantic gestures.


Just because she is now your woman and you have been accepted in her home doesn’t mean you should stop wooing her. Do romantic things to make your girl smile. Notice what she always talks about and what she considers romantic and try to do them once in a while. Also, don’t hold yourself back when it comes to expressing love in public or indulging in a bit of cute PDA now and then. Some guys I know can’t hold their girlfriends in public; there is nothing so bad in holding hands, stealing few kisses and pecks. Just be romantic.


  • Don’t give in to your addictions.


Don’t ever make your woman feel like she’s second best, by putting your friends or your work before her needs. I am not saying you should stay with your woman all day without working or seeing your friends. But if you make her feel she is not important to you, another person will steal her attention.


  • Don’t walk away from an argument.


Remember, there will be time when issues will come up. Relationship is not devoid of arguments and disagreements. But you should know the reason why your girlfriend would confront you is to clear any confusion and not to insult you. Have in mind that fights in a relationship don’t happen to win points, it happens because one of you is hurting inside and the hurt has to be addressed. So, be a grown up. Don’t walk away from any argument except if you sense the argument is likely to descend into blows.


  • Protect her.


One of the traits a real man should have is dependability. There will always be people around both of you who will have opinions or perceptions about your woman. But if you love her, you would be there as her protector, and you would let her see that no matter what kind of trouble she’s facing from your family and friends, you’re always there to support her and help her through.

These tips are not in any way conclusive, as there are a thousand and one things you can do to please your woman. But know that you need to love her and constantly show her that you do, and love will eventually prevails except if you two are not meant to be together. Stay Safe.


Christopher Bamidele

Christopher Bamidele

Chris Bamidele is a passionate and unapologetic Nigerian; an amateur writer and aspiring TV director who holds a first degree in Mass Communication, but majored in Radio and TV Broadcasting. He is cool headed, a realist, and an optimist to the core. Chris Bamidele blogs African stories on and tweets @degreatest2. He currently lives in Lagos.

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