Women sometimes get to a point in their relationships where they expect their men to know absolutely everything and automatically fix them.
This is okay if you guys have been dating for a long time and if you know everything about him and fix them too. But if that isn’t the case and you simply just expect him to fix the world or read your mind without you uttering a single word, then you are being wrong.
A man needs you to let your words out, express your feelings and let him be in the know whenever you need or want something done.
Let him know when it is not okay. We have all had that time when we answer “I’m fine” to a question that asks about our well being when we certainly aren’t. if you are trying to appear calm, cool and collected in the presence of a storm at work or in front of your kids (if you have any), then this response might be valid.
But the moment you say you are fine when you know deep down you are not and your spouse can fix why you aren’t fine, then that is not fine.
Let him in. let him know what the problem is and if he is the cause, let him fix it. Don’t expect him to know and fix it, tell him. after all, he is just a man, not a wizard.
The gifts to buy. I dated a guy once who just knew what to buy. He bought my everything, straight down to my undies and all I had to do was go to bed while he shopped for me because I knew he could do no wrong with the things he bought.
He knew my size for everything and that was relationship heaven. I still mourn the relationship. *sigh*. But I digress. Not all men are like this ex of mine. In fact most men aren’t. they want to spoil their woman, but they just don’t know where to begin with.
Don’t just sit there, letting music videos and Pop music tell you he is not the one because he does not know what brand of chocolate or Ice cream to purchase for you. Tell him, drop a hint and let him know somehow what to do.
Let him know your fave shoe brand, perfume, what you need at the moment and what you won’t mind for him to get you during your next birthday.
What you like. Again, some men are absolutely in the know of what their woman wants in bed from the very first day they set eyes on her. They know how to please her, make her moan, make her forget her name and her house address and all that and they know how to find the G-spot without much trouble.
But some don’t.
They do know how to please a woman but they don’t know how to please you.
So instead of rolling your eyes while the act is on or hoping he would touch the right places, subtly tell him when the act is over that which you want and how you want him to do it.
You will be surprised at the results!
What your future plans are. What you want to do in the next few years, where you want your career to be headed or be at and what you want from the relationship/marriage need to be discussed.
Men rarely start this conversation, not because they don’t want to marry you or don’t see a future with you, but because when a woman does not say anything, they assume everything is well. And more, because women are the talkers and the organizers. So the moment you don’t let him know your plans, your relationship will be in trouble soon. Especially if one of you does not see the other in the future and the other person does.
What you are worried about. They say a problem shared is a problem half solved. This is kuku not always true, we all know this. But in a relationship, you need to use this technique. Tell your partner what you are worried about and even if he does not fix it (he most likely won’t, except you are dating Iron man), he would help you through it and help you see that you are not alone.
And who won’t love to go through the problems of life with their lovers?