Revealed: What She’s Thinking of After Sex

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Revealed! What She’s Thinking of After Sex

Guys, have you ever wondered what goes on in the minds of females after sex? Ever wondered if all they’re thinking about is how good you were?

You hook up with this girl and things get really steamy and you end up in bed and do the deed and it’s over. The first question you guys always ask is: did you like it? And the answer you’ll always get is ‘yes’ but seriously are you sure she’s telling you the truth?

Are you really sure it’s a yes in her mind?

Wonder no more. I’ll reveal to you what usually goes on in a female’s mind after sex.

  1. Where is this leading? Unlike guys who can have sex and leave it at sex, a girl wants something more meaningful. If you did not make it clear to each other before you got down that the sex would be a onetime thing, then she’ll be wondering if there’s going to be another encounter. She’s also speculating if it is leading to something serious. Once a woman opens her legs for you, there’s a chance that she’s opening her heart too. Yes, we know about girls who seem to be experts in opening only their legs but I’m assuming you don’t do hoes and that’s why I’m writing this. So first thing she’s thinking: where is this leading?after sex
  2. Did I just make a mistake? She knows little about you and she just slept with you. The heat of the moment has worn off and she is now left with the thoughts in her head and her conscience. She is wondering if she has just played the whore, if she let you in too quickly. What are you thinking about her? How do you see her? As cheap? As easy? She wants to know how you feel about her and that is why she cuddles. She wants to see if you have any feelings besides what your little man gave her. If you go to sleep or even have a shower immediately afterwards, you just showed her that she’s inconsequential and you’re irritated about the sex.
  3. Will he tell his friends? Girls know that you guys always brag about your conquests. But no sensible woman would want to be the trending topic on the table of men. It is rightly assumed that any lady who is discussed amongst men as regards to her sex life has been devalued. So she fears about this and is wondering if you will take the gist outside.
  4. What did I do wrong? She looks around and studies the environment for markers that she screwed up somewhere. Maybe her panties were not so clean. Maybe you spotted the stretchmarks on her bum. Maybe she had been too loud and the neighbors heard. Maybe she doesn’t smell right. All these little worries cross her mind. You should try not to leave her to her thoughts.
  5. Was it good for him? And finally the important question comes in. Did he like it? Did I perform well? Am I top on his list? Will we do this again? Believe it or not, girls also want to rock their men’s beds as you want to rock ours. Girls who lie stiffly are fast-fading. But note that a girl might go easy the first time as she might not want to be seen as knowing too much of sex. You will enjoy her better when she trusts you enough and all the above questions have been answered and she has no issues. To get a better second performance, make her feel at ease. Laugh and tease and she’ll take the lead.after sex 3
  6. What the heck did I just do? This happens when the sex went bad. You came too fast, you kept stabbing into her like a robot, you did not emotionally attend to her, she wasn’t aroused, you grunted too loudly… guy, you were just a total failure. Or it could be that you showed your A-hole side by ignoring her after the act. No woman wants that. We want to feel appreciated and shown affection but you turn around and snore like a warthog. You’re not only showing you don’t care, you’re also showing that you made a mistake sleeping with her and trust me, she’s thinking the same.after sex 4
  7. I want this to be permanent. Now, if you gave her the best time of her life and attended to her emotionally, then this would be the first thought on her mind. Forget everything you read above, this knocks them all down. She would be wanting to have a permanent fixture in your life. She thinks of breakfast in bed and wants to surprise you with it, so she might ask where your kitchen is just to spy if there are ingredients for that breakfast. She looks around your bedroom and wonders how her life can fit into yours. She plans to dash home the next morning to return with a toothbrush and a towel, just to be sure that the good thing she received would be waiting when she returns. She asks you to have a shower with her because it is a bonding experience for her. And then she asks you for something to sleep in, wanting you to hand her your shirt or t-shirt… all of this with a smile on her face that will extend unto the next morning.

Brother, if you’ve gotten to that point, then you did something good. Better still, if she was the one who went to sleep snuggled in your arms, then congratulations! You hit the mark and you don’t need to worry about how you performed.



Sally is the author of the Fish Brain series and Boys With Toys. She has written other online series like The Immortals’ Code, No heart Feelings, Novocaine Knights, To Tame a Virgin and In Pursuit of Kyenpia. She lives in Lagos with her husband and kids and loves the occasional bar lounging with friends. She blogs on or you can follow her on Twitter @NovocainKnights


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