Anytime I write a blog I try and write from experience and give you the wisdom and knowledge that comes from that experience, when I write to you I am writing as someone that knows and has gone through it myself. Unfortunately like many men and women around the world, I was in a verbally abusive relationship.
What is a verbal abuse? Verbal abuse is non-physical behaviors such as threats, insults, constant monitoring or “checking in,” excessive texting, humiliation, intimidation, or isolation. Why did I allow myself to be with a man that verbal abused me? I honestly thought he could change, that if I showed how much I loved and cared for him, and how much he was hurting me, himself and especially this relationship he would changed but he never did.The relationship was affecting me mentally (thinking I wasn’t good enough) physically (losing weight up and down due to the stress) and spiritually (
Signs of being in a Emotional/Verbal Abusive Relationship
- Calling you names and putting you down.
- Yelling and screaming at you.
- Intentionally embarrassing you in public.
- Preventing you from seeing or talking with friends and family.
- Telling you what to do and wear.
- Using online communities or cell phones to control, intimidate or humiliate you.
- Blaming your actions for their abusive or unhealthy behavior.
- Stalking you
- Threatening to harm you, your pet or people you care about.
- Making you feel guilty or immature when you don’t consent to sexual activity.
- Starting rumors about you.
- Threatening to have your children taken away.
Don’t think that just because your partner has never laid a hand on you that everything is okay, physical abuse and verbal abuse are the same thing, They both makes you think you are worthless or not good enough to be loved (And that is not true). During the relationship I questioned myself and God, I was angry that God put a man like that in my life and for some reason I couldn’t leave. I prayed and asked God to help me and to find the strength to leave and not care anymore, and HE did. I finally had the strength I needed mentally, physically and spiritually to leave. I was so angry that I wasted my time with a man I knew God didn’t plan for me to be with, but with self-reflection and mediating I now realized that God put my ex in my life to show what I don’t want, how a man shouldn’t treat me, and to realize my self-worth. It was a long process but I now realized why things happened the way it did. I’m now stronger from my experience and because of that my head is held high.
NO ONE DESERVES to be physically, emotionally, or verbally abused, if you know someone that is. Please send them this article or email me, Abuse is abuse. Some might read this article and call me foolish or stupid, but I say if you have never been in an abusive relationship it’s a different story, I hope my article was helpful to those that are going through it and to those that know someone in an abusive relationship.
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