Iyabo Obasanjo Writes Bashing Letter To Olusegun Obasanjo – “You’re A Narcissistic Megalomaniac”

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After Chief Olusegun Obasanjo’s critical letter to President Goodluck Jonathan, his daughter Iyabo Obasanjo has sent him an equally scathing letter.

Senator Iyabo Obasanjo in a letter to her father accused him of having an egoistic craving for power and living a life where only men of low esteem and intellect thrive.

In the 11-page letter dated December 16, 2013 exclusively obtained by Vanguard, Iyabo accused her father of orchestrating a third term for himself as president, cruelty to family members, abandonment of children and grandchildren, and also, a legendary reputation of maltreatment of women.

Iyabo who forswore further political engagements in Nigeria denied any political motive for her missive, and described Nigeria as a country where her father and his ilk have helped to create a situation where smart, capable people bend down to imbeciles to survive. She particularly noted her experience as chairman of the Senate Committee on Health when she led the committee on a retreat appropriated for in the budget only for her to be prosecuted for it.

Iyabo, first child of the former president, started the letter titled, Open Letter to my Father with a 4th century Chinese proverb by Mencius which states: “The great man is he who does not lose his child’s heart.”

Her letter:

“It brings me no joy to have to write this but since you started this trend of open letters I thought I would follow suit since you don’t listen to anyone anyway. The only way to reach you may be to make the public aware of some things. As a child well brought up by my long-suffering mother in Yoruba tradition, I have been reluctant to tell the truth about you but as it seems you still continue to delude yourself about the kind of person you are and I think for posterity’s sake it is time to set the records straight.

“I will return to the issue of my long-suffering mother later in this letter.

“Like most Nigerians, I believe there are very enormous issues currently plaguing the country but I was surely surprised that you will be the one to publish such a treatise. I remember clearly as if it was yesterday the day I came over to Abuja from Abeokuta when I was Commissioner of Health in OgunState, specifically to ask you not to continue to pursue the third term issue.

“I had tried to bring it up when your sycophantic aides were present and they brushed my comments aside and as usual you listened to their self-serving counsel. For you to accuse someone else of what you so obviously practiced yourself tells of your narcissistic megalomaniac personality.  Everyone around for even a few minutes knows that the only thing you respond to is praise and worship of you. People have learnt how to manipulate you by giving you what you crave. The only ones that can’t and will not stroke your ego are family members who you universally treat like shit (sic) apart from the few who have learned to manipulate you like others.

“Before I continue, Nigerians are people who see conspiracy and self-service in everything because I think they believe everyone is like them. This letter is not in support of President Jonathan or APC or any other group or person, but an outpouring from my soul to God. I don’t blame you for the many atrocities you have been able to get away with, Nigerians were your enablers every step of the way. People ultimately get leaders that reflect them.

“Getting back to the story, I made sure your aides were not around and brought up the issue, trying to deliver the presentation of the issue as I had practiced it in my head. I started with the fact that we copied the US constitution which has term limits of two terms for a President. As is your usual manner, you didn’t allow me to finish my thought process and listen to my point of view. Once I broached the subject you sat up and said that the US had no term limits in the past but that it had been introduced in the 1940s after the death of President Roosevelt, which is true.

I wanted to say to you: when you copy something you also copy the modifications based on the learning from the original; only a fool starts from scratch and does not base his decisions on the learning of others. In science, we use the modifications found by others long ago to the most recent, as the basis of new findings; not going back to discover and learn what others have learnt. Human knowledge and development and civilization will not have progressed if each new generation and society did not build on the knowledge of others before them.

The American constitution itself is based on several theories and philosophies of governance available in the 18th century. Democracy itself is a governance method started by the ancient Greeks. America’s founding fathers used it with modifications based on what hadn’t worked well for the ancient Greeks and on new theories since then.

“As usual in our conversations, I kept quiet because I know you well.  You weren’t going to change your mind based on my intervention as you had already made up your mind on the persuasion of the minions working for you who were ripping the country blind. When I spoke to you, your outward attitude to the people of the country was that you were not interested in the third term and that it was others pushing it. Your statement to me that day proved to me that you were the brain behind the third term debacle. It is therefore outrageous that you accuse the current President of a similar two-facedness that you yourself used against the people of the country.

“I was on a plane trip between Abuja and Lagos around the time of the third term issue and I sat next to one of your sycophants on the plane.  He told me: “Only Obasanjo can rule Nigeria”.  I replied: “God has not created a country where only one person can rule. If only one person can rule Nigeria then the whole Nigeria project is not a viable one, as it will be a non-sustainable project”

“I don’t know how you came about Yar’Adua as the candidate for your party as it was not my priority or job. Unlike you, I focus on the issues I have been given responsibility over and not on the jobs of others. It was the day of the PDP Presidential Campaign in Abeokuta during the state-by-state tour of 2007 that Yar’Adua got sick and had to be flown abroad. The MKO Abiola Stadium was already filled with people by 9am when I drove by (and) we had told people based on the campaign schedule that the rally would start at noon.

At 11 am I headed for the stadium on foot; it was a short walk as there were so many cars already parked in and out. As I walked on with two other people, we saw crowds of people leaving the stadium. I recognized some of them as politicians and I asked them why people were leaving. They said  the Presidential candidate had died. I was alarmed and shocked. I walked back home and received a call from a friend in Lagos who said the same and added that he had died in the plane carrying him abroad for treatment and that the plane was on its way to Katsina to bury him.

I called you, and told you the information and that the stadium was already half-empty. You told me to go to the stadium and tell the people on the podium to announce that the Presidential candidate had taken ill that morning but the rest of the team, including you and the Vice-Presidential candidate would arrive shortly.  I did as I was told, but even the people on the podium at first didn’t make the announcement because they thought it was true that Yar’Adua had died. I had to take the microphone and make the announcement myself. It did little good. People kept trooping out of the stadium. Your team didn’t arrive until 4pm and by this time we had just a sprinkling of people left.

That evening after the disaster of a rally, you said you had insisted that the Presidential candidate fly to Germany for a check-up although you said he only had a cold. I asked why would anyone fly to Germany to treat a cold?  And you said “I would rather die than have the man die at this time.”  I thought of this profound statement as things later unfolded against me.  Then I thought it a stupid statement but as usual I kept quiet, little did I know how your machinations for a person would be used against me.  When Yar’Adua eventually died, you stayed alive, I would have expected you to jump into his grave.

I left Nigeria in 1989 right after youth service to study in the US and I visited in 1994 for a week and didn’t visit again until your inauguration in 1999. In between, you had been arrested by Abacha and jailed. We, your children, had no one who stood with us. Stella famously went around collecting money on your behalf but we had no one.  We survived. I was the only one of the children working then as a post-doctoral fellow when I got the call from a friend informing me of your arrest.

A week before your arrest, you had called me from Denmark and I had told you that you should be careful that the government was very offended by some of your statements and actions and may be planning to arrest or kill you as was occurring to many at the time.  The source of my information was my mother who, agitated, had called me, saying I should warn you as this was the rumour in the country. As usual you brushed aside my comments, shouting on the phone that they cannot try anything and you will do and say as you please.  The consequence of your bravado is history.

We, your family, have borne the brunt of your direct cruelty and also suffered the consequences of your stupidity but got none of the benefits of your successes. Of course, anyone around you knows how little respect you have for your children.

You think our existence on earth is about you. By the way, how many are we? 19, 20, 21? Do you even know?  In the last five years, how many of these children have you spoken to? How many grandchildren do you have and when did you last see each of them? As President you would listen to advice of people that never finished high school who would say anything to keep having access to you so as to make money over your children who loved you and genuinely wished you well.

“At your first inauguration in 1999, I and my brothers and sisters told you we were coming from the US. As is usual with you, you made no arrangements for our trip, instead our mom organized to meet each of us and provided accommodation. At the actual swearing-in at Eagle Square, the others decided to watch it on TV. Instead I went to the square and I was pushed and tossed by the crowd.

I managed to get in front of the crowd where I waved and shouted at you as you and General Abdulsalam Abubakar  walked past to go back to the VIP seating area. I saw you mouth ‘my daughter’ to General Abdullahi who was the one who pulled me out of the crowd and gave me a seat. As I looked around I saw Stella and Stella’s family prominently seated but none of your children.  I am sure General Abdullahi would remember this incident and I am eternally grateful to him.

Getting back to my mother, I still remember your beating her up continually when we were kids. What kids can forget that kind of violence against their mother?  Your maltreatment of women is legendary.  Many of your women have come out to denounce you in public but since your madness is also part of the madness of the society, it is the women that are usually ignored and mistreated. Of course, you are the great pretender, making people believe you have a good family life and a good relationship with your children but once in a while your pretence gets cracked.

When Gbenga gave a ride to help someone he didn’t know but saw was in need and the person betrayed his trust by tapping his candid response on the issues going on between you and your then vice-president, Atiku Abubakar, you had your aides go on air and denounce the boy before you even spoke to him to find out what happened.  What kind of father does that? Your atrocities to some of my other siblings I will let them tell in their own due time or never if they choose.



Quo non Ascendam. Writer. E-mail: wana@360nobs.com


    1. It is all lies. I can assure you that Iyabo Obasanjo NEVER wrote that letter. Read what they say she wrote again. Can a lady with a PhD that is not from Port-Harcourt write such about her father? It has no depth. She is too intelligent to write such about her father. It is the reply of Mr. Jonathan. Jonathan is desperate and the Obasanjo’s letter hit him real good; below the belt. No Yoruba lady of distinction, like Iyabo, will do such a thing. That letter is not written by Iyabo. It dripping with the hand writing of the Okupe’s and the Abati’s of this world.

  1. I have no pity for you Iyabo Obasanjo, and I don’t think an average Nigerian would. Whether you like to accept it or not, you are your father’s legacy and you are embodied in his manipulations (or the instruments of it) and other atrocities.

    A large percentage of the issues you raised in your letter to your father are indeed your family issues which is not meant for public consumption, if your mother brought you up well as you claimed, then your impasse with your father should not have come to public domain. You must have some elders in your extended family, I would imagine. Nigerians are not interested on how Obasanjo runs his family, but rather how our country is run.

    Now your father and your very self can shut up for all we care, for we do know that one of the hoodlums called leaders are sponsoring you in return for some dirty gains.

    1. On the contrary, the way a mans home is run reflects how he will rule.Even the churches (Bible) believe in that ” If a man cannot rule his house how can he handle pastoring”. Take a functioning democracy like America where leaders lives and homes are scrutinized, why? because it’ll reveal your character to a large extent. Why does corruption thrive in Nigeria today? its because there are so many back door, in the dark, under the table deals and acts done which will never be brought be exposed and brought into the light for accountability. I admire her courage and i’m proud of her truth. Agreed family issues should remain family issues, but political figures or leaders are meant to be role models of not just social, economic or political spheres but family as well. At the very least im glad you and her agree on the fact that Obasanjo’s legacy is an atrocious one.

  2. No matter what, your father is ur father and your mother yours even if is a madman or madwoman. It is only a bastard child that behave in this manner. Are u telling us u dd not for once benefit from ur father’s umbrella or shadow all the days of ur life? How dd u became a commissioner in Ogun State then and later got PDP ticket to vie for senate slot? on ur own merit or mother’s glove?
    Nigerians are no longer full, what Baba spoke about are fundamental issues which must be addressed unlike urs that are 90% personal. Aside ur comment on Baba’s 3rd term agenda and lack or inadequate fatherly care others are personal issues. U are only concerned about how ur father will pamper u and carry u as firstdaughter of the republic”; where were u when ur father was arrested and stella was around the prison looking after him? U were away all that period only to be back when the soup was done to be consumed in 1999! Then u want a specially designed seat as first daughter of d person u dd not look after before God’s intervention. I have had an encounter with u too and u equally shared some of ur father’s traits maybe by heredity if u don’t know. U are equally autocratic and full of urself, not patient enough to hear what people wanted to say or tell u. U prefer pushing people to ur aides for responses even on official matters. How does ur numbers as obasanjo’s kids answer petinent questions of curruption, snipers training, sectionalism and domination of major sectors/appointment by south-south/ijaws; missing nnpc money etc. Much as i agree that President Jonathan should be allowed to do his work, and bring goodluck to Nigeria as he has done in sports sector, he shouldn’t polarise nigeria sectionally or religious wise. Baba no matter what was a Nationalist and God used him to put Jonathan there as he did for Yar’Adua. However, what is happening may be good for us, may be is time to liberate Nigeria from their clutches. May God safe Nigeria. . .Fatai

  3. A Bastard Child will point to his father`s hose with a left hand finger! This Family has no heritage. As it is with the Father, so with the Children.

  4. Nawa oooo well it a lesson to men/women who dont take of your home this want the end will look like, lets stop politicing. It more like the truth is catching up with them, nigerian r praying.

  5. Of course, she must have written it. If she hadn’t, then she would have promptly and publicly denounce it. It would also be very demeaning to suggest that she had it written “abatically” or “okupeicly” with her consent. However, I truly believe that the closeness to the OBJ bombshell is not a coincidence. She obviously deliberately gave a heavy boost that diffused the tension of negative spotlight on GEJ. This condescending attempts at manipulation and counter manipulation of Nigerians by her and her father is despicable … to say the least and makes me very sad indeed.

  6. I will be the last person to believe these jargons because any status Iyabo Obasanjo attained today it was through her father which is obvious to all Nigerians. So for Iyabo to be saying all these against her father, its a pure lies which i can never believes . To me this letter is written by sycophants that eating under President goodluck Jonathan to cause misunderstanding between father and daughter. This is political gimmick.

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