No BS: WHY CAN’T WE DATE OUR EXES’ FRIENDS?

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All romantic relationships are unique and special but just the same, not every relationship is meant to last forever.

Sometimes, we enter into relationships with the hope of ending up together in the paradise of marriage but often due to reasons obvious and not so obvious, most relationships end.

When a relationship ends, people hopefully move on with their lives and in most cases, people are also expected to move onto new partners. That is life.

I’ve been in different relationships with different women at different points in my life but the most recent ones are the ones with more talks and plans towards marriage.

When my most recent relationship ended, we parted amicably and wished each other a better life with new partners but promised to stay in touch as friends.

A few weeks ago, I informed my new friend, old girlfriend about my ongoing relationship with one of her friends whom I intend to walk down the aisle with and all hell broke loose.

Now, here’s my confusion – How come we are allowed to wear old clothes from friends, buy used cars from friends and even move into houses vacated by friends but we are not allowed to get intimate with friends of our exes?

My new girlfriend and I are ready to cut off all ties with my ex but before we do that, I’d like to know “WHY CAN’T WE DATE OUR EXES’ FRIENDS”?

Isn’t the relationship ending in marriage more important than mere friendship ?

What’s the fuss about the exes friends being untouchable ?

Abeg, share your views in the comment box below.

Noble Igwe

Noble Igwe

Nobs is a SLU…shh trust fund kid who works just to exercise his body and mind. He’s “Unruly” but as calm as the “ABE” boys. Referred to as FYI (Fly, Young and Igbo) by his friends, Nobs says iT tHe wAy iT iS. Follow him on Twitter @nobsdaslushhkid Enough of the English language……..My name is Noble Igwe,go figure!

13 comments

  1. Lol, Noble. I wonder o. Sha I figure that if you gave old clothes to a friend and everyone compliments ur friend about the cloth and Bella blogs about it sef. You’ll be jealous as well. That’s how exes feel

  2. u can’t compare a person and clothes… u built memories with Ur ex, u had a life 2geda. seeing DAT person share does moments…. not a cool sight

  3. well I feel the Ex the relationship ended coz of the friend or that she was always attracted 2 the guy so…….. makes the Ex feel betrayed by the guy n her friend even though she doesn’t feel anything 4 u anymore…. now that I typed it, sounded better in my head

  4. I’ve never been in a similar situation but I think the key emotion here is betrayal. The ex probably feels the relationship started brewing while she was still with you.
    Houses, clothes and cars don’t have feelings, they are inanimate objects plus I think time is a good factor to be considered, if you started dating the friend long after you broke up with the ex, it might lessen the impact.

  5. The question seems tricky,but in my opinion,i think dating the friend of your ex makes it seem as though while you were in a relationship with your ex,you were also seeing her friend and i think once you say its over with your ex,its best to severe all ties and that includes with friends of your ex,cos the saying goes’Birds of the same feather flock together’

  6. I doubt if it can really work with someone who was a mutual friend of a guy and his ex-girlfriend. Firstly, the sneaky feeling that you had a thing for her friend when you were still dating her. Secondly, the girl code thing that says that exes are untouchable. I will assume that if your current crush had any respect for her friendship with your ex, she should have hooked up with some other dude that is not you. Well then, you might throw in the “We are in love” card but then I can only smile and shriek in Igbo… Love owu onye ebee?

  7. Broda this is an unusual line that ye has crossed. Unusual because its not supposed to be a line, as such crossing it doesn’t exist. I’ll tell you what, when you can figure out why the chicken crossed the road and gimme a definitive answer, i’ll get back to you on this one

  8. As for me. .I don’t av an ex…if we r done den we r done. ..so if I find love dere,I move on ….any bodies opinon doesn’t matter as far im happy..if he wanted me dat much or we were good together …his friend won’t even be a topic at all…

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