I bet everyone wants to know what I believe a Non-African woman should know before dating an African men. Correct? Okay before I begin let me just say: Am I saying all African men are the same? No!! Am I saying majority of them have mommy issues? Maybe. lol. Dealing with an African men takes lots of patience, the only reason why we, African women have an easier time handling them is only because we are surrounded by them constantly and grew up around them, I know they can be frustrating at times.
God has blessed and created the most beautiful, handsome, manly men in Africa. However, our fine brothers have started looking into other ethnicities and are beginning to date interracially (putting their chocolate cookie in sugar cookies, raisin cookies, and Macadamia cookies) and it’s okay. One can not stop what the heart likes. There are lots of handsome men out there, in different continents and countries so I’m here to give advice on some things a Non African woman should have in the back of her head when dating an African man.
Here’s a list of what you can expect so you are well prepared:
1) Henny, dark liquor, Stout, or Heinkein or other heavy beers are their drink of choice. I don’t know why maybe it’s they want to have that drink as their “special drink” because it’s one of the few drinks most women wouldn’t necessarily see as their drink of choice. Yuck! So the men drink it right up! Oyinbo/Akata: Have at least a case in your house, if your man drinks alcohol and comes to your place and sees you have some, he will be a happy man.
2) COOK!! COOK!! COOK!! : Even if you don’t like to cook, try and cook a few meals a week. A Nigerian man loves with his belly amongst other things. You know what I’m talking about. Cough. A Nigerian man wants to be able to know that you can properly feed him.
Oyinbo/Akata: Cook your favorite meals, make sure it’s good, Nigerian men are spoiled by the sweet taste of their mother’s cooking so you are going to have to put that work in the kitchen. No African man is always going to want to do take out or go to a restaurant all the time. He wants to know you can cook!
3) Meat and fish are your best friend: I don’t care, I have yet to meet an African man that doesn’t like meat or fish. When you cook, you must add chicken, goat, turkey, or fish in a man’s food, if not it’s not a complete meal. I’m serious Give him a plate of rice without meat or fish and see his face.
4) Alpha male: A.M want to show how they are a man, they could show it through their fortunes, how they treats you, or by their religious and mental level. Some times you have to let a man be a man. Nigerian men have big ego and for some enough pride to stretch from here to China. Nigerian men are taught to be the head in the household, the need to take care of certain obligations for a woman comes naturally for them. (Paying for the date.) They don’t like to feel belittled or not in control, and because of that some are very argumentative and aggressive to protect that Alpha male, macho man persona.
5) The most sensual, sexual guy you will meet. I don’t know what it’s like in the open public between you and your African man but I can almost guarantee it’s great behind closed doors, when you guys are… You know what. cough. An African man wants to pleasure his woman, and give her a good sexual experience; married or dating. Nigerian men consider themselves great lovers, if only that were true but even though this might not be exactly true for all Nigerian men, they at least try and put that work in, if you know what I mean.
Nigerian men are crazy but that’s only because they love hard. As much as they might be a pain in your butt or do things that might frustrate you, an African man has all the capability of loving and treating a woman like a queen. Dating them could be a little challenging if not used to African men, but with some understanding, love, respect, and some home cooking, you will do just fine.