Why are women constantly complaining and frustrating themselves about guys? We have all heard the term “I hate men” or heard one of our friend’s crying about a guy but why does it have to be like this? Why do we have to go through this endless cycle of meeting guys, dating them for a period of time only to realize that he isn’t the one.
For most, if not all women the final chapter to any serious relationship is marriage. In our early years of the dating life, we are meeting different kinds of guys with different angles and objectives. Here are some of the guys you have probably encountered:
The player (the guy with multiple girls texting and calling him, he leaves you feeling insecure about the relationship but his “loving” is your weakness. You feel lied to and cheated on but it’s hard to walk away)
The next door neighbor ( the guy you have known since almost birth but you probably see him as a brother figure more than a boyfriend)
The sweet guy ( the guy who whispers sweet words into your ear and makes you feel all warm inside, he knows all the right things to say and do. You know he will always be around because he really likes you, so you friend zone him and keep him as back up to experience some of the other kinds of guys)
The bad boy (the guy you know isn’t technically good for you but you love his edgy, adventurous side and feel that if you love him; he will calm down and remove that bad boy mentality and do something useful in his life).
The older guy ( the guy who isn’t in your age group, your friends might even joke around saying he is your uncle. (Don’t mind them) An older man can show and teach you how to be more mature. The good thing about most older men is that at this point in their life, they have SEEN IT ALL!! They want something serious and they aren’t one for games. They are more stable and can do things most guys in your age group can not, I’m not talking about sugar daddies!)
Have you read the list? Have you encountered at least one of the following guys in your dating life? Are you single or not happy in your current relationship? If you answered Yes to any of the questions OYA KEEP ON READING!!
The PROBLEM isn’t that there aren’t any good men out there it’s the fact that we are picking the wrong ones. Dating is good! If you do it the RIGHT WAY, meeting different types of guys so you will eventually know what you want. (How will you know vanilla is your favourite ice cream if you haven’t tried other flavours?) Dating different type of men will allow you to realize what you want in a man, picking and choosing traits you would like to obtain in a lifetime partner.
P.S when I say dating, I don’t mean sleeping around.
In every person’s stage of life, they start to think about the future, family, children and marriage unfortunately that stage comes sooner for women than men. Once you know what you want in a guy, if you meet a man that doesn’t have those qualities, KEEP IT MOVING no need to waste his and your time on some thing you know is only temporary.
The POWER of Prayer: When dating or in a relationship, don’t give up on hope. I am a firm believer that there’s a person out there for everyone. Write a list of the traits you want in a man and pray on it, God will hear your prayers but also pray to be a better woman because sometimes we want to believe we aren’t the problem but in some cases we are. We have been hurt by men and because of that there might be a growing bitterness and coldness in our heart that we don’t realize is there, making it hard for us to open up and love.
Pray to be a good woman that you may open your eyes and see. If you don’t love yourself, how can you expect any man to love you? There will always be an emptiness in your heart that no man, no amount of jewelry, shoes, clothes, or money can fill unless you do it yourself. In order to have any good, stable relationship you must have one with God, allow Him into your dating life He can help you find the right one.
Everything is changing. We aren’t meeting suitors like how our mothers and grandmothers were. Where a suitor would come with his people to state their intentions. We are in different times where technology is advancing and everything is growing and modernized, but just because the world around us is moving fast doesn’t mean we can take our time and move according to our own pace especially when it comes to our love life. There are good men out there waiting to make you, their queens. Be patient, be yourself and Mr. Right will come.
If you take the safe, cautious steps, love yourself, date the right way, and include God in your dating life you will be much more happier and see better results in your love life.
REMEMBER THIS: There’s 1 universe, 8 planets, 204 countries, 804 islands, 7 seas, 7 billion people in this world, there’s no reason for you to be single.