It is the Valentine season and most ladies are talking about the gifts they’d be getting from their men and “toasters”. It is the norm for younger women especially, to discuss the newest fashion accessory they hope to get from that special one or the lastest gadget(eg Blackberry Z10) they pray he would give them. The funny thing is they hardly discuss what they would give in return.
Now, this isn’t about Vals alone, it happens on birthdays, anniversaries, christmas and any other season that’s associated with giving(or not). Women prefer to be spent on than spending on their partner. I know of a lot of women who dream of nothing but the rich men that they’d carry his name and kids but not of their own success or future career. They’d rather latch unto his own dreams and riches not make their own dreams(if they have any that is) a reality. Should this even be?
Men might not be extremely particular about gifts but they love to be pampered as much as women. Let your man feel loved by buying him that thing he needs and he would respect and love you more. Give him everything, let him see how much you love and adore and respect him by even purchasing on impulse for him. I once bought my man a suit on impulse not because he didn’t have any or because he doesn’t have better but because I thought of him when I saw it. And guess what? He loves it and he likes wearing it all the time! The look on his face was priceless and I wanted to buy him more things that moment.
You shouldn’t just want things, you should be open enough to give. Men can’t stand tight fisted women, believe it or not.
Be independent. The thrill you get when you purchase your own stuff yourself is priceless. Do not live your life thinking like a gold digger. Yes most women claim they aren’t all about digging gold but that’s what they really do.live your life the way you would be proud to raise your daughter(s).
Be in charge for a change. Offer to pay the bills for once during a date, offer to fuel his tank sometimes, offer to pay for both your tickets at the movies sometimes. He would totally respect you for that and love you more, yes, quote me. Men are totally in awe of women who can hold their own, its a huge turn on for them. How about you give your boo a bit of that? You don’t have to earn a hundred thousand to even do it. How much are movie tickets again? You can do it. Start now.
Use this Valentine season as a period to buy for your man. Isn’t it more blessed to give than to receive?