As regards what you’re about to read, I’ll appreciate it if you could rid your minds of any form of bias. According to Baba 70, take your mind out of any spiritual contraption and wear the cloak of realism.
I believe you’re in the right frame of mind now, so I can proceed with my line of thought. Isn’t monogamy a boring way of life? Can you imagine eating a particular dish or listening to a particular music over and over again, sooner or later you get tired of it.
The fact is the human nature requires change. “Variety is the spice of life”, this statement says it all. It’s the ability to claim more than one item, feel more than one emotion that keeps us ticking.
Africans have never really appreciated the concept of Monogamy. It’s not in our culture for a man to marry one wife. This concept was forced upon the people by the missionaries who brought the good news.
We imbibed this way of life but we haven’t been able to abide by it, who can blame us? The Europeans have a distorted sense of monogamy. They never marry two wives but engage in extra-martial affairs, this depicts that man can’t be 100% monogamous.
For some individuals, the fleeting affairs that they have with other women or men is the only form of excitement they experience once they get married.
At this juncture, I’ll to stress the fact that I don’t support extra-martial affairs but who are we kidding we all engage in this act at one point in our lives. Some of us just get caught up in it.
Monogamy is clearly a contradiction to the human nature. A man wants to possess every woman he sees even the women want to possess every man they see. Again, our culture frowns upon a woman engaging in extra-martial affairs and that’s not fair. Men are allowed to do what they like but women are curtailed…what twisted logic. Certain cultures allow for polyandry, this further proves that no matter the legal issues or how uncouth it might be, polygamy is a much more interesting way of life.
Now, you can cloak your minds with bias and spiritual doctrines. Will you blame a man or woman for engaging in an extra-martial affair?
He or she who has never considered dating or having more than one sexual partner should post the first comment.