Before you think this is me giving answers to one of the most popular and controversial questions in the world, let me say that I am not giving answers.
I’m only sharing a man’s thoughts about us (girls) and here’s hoping the girls would say what it is they want in the comment box below.
As a lady, I have realised that every girl’s wants varies. What I want is different from what each of my friends want.
Men find this annoying though, because their lives are so simple and they all want the same thing.
Recently, my friend and I were chatting and I asked him how come he was still single after three years. He replied “I haven’t found the one yet”
Then I laughed and waved his answer aside. “That’s what you all say” I responded “instead of you people to say you are not ready; you’d be saying you haven’t found the one. Is it so hard to fine the one? It’s easier to find Miss Right than Mr Right”
He shook his head, disagreeing with me. Thing is, I know him to be a good boy and I know he probably meant what he said.
“So I should believe you?” I asked
“Yes” he nodded and further said “I almost had a relationship a couple of months ago. In fact, I was convinced she was the one I had been looking for”
“So what happened?” I became more interested
“She proved she wasn’t”
“How?” I wanted to know
As much as my interest was piqued, I somehow didn’t think I’d hear something different. Most guys gave the same old reasons for not dating a girl, but I still wanted to know.
“She is one heck of a pretty girl and I liked her right from the moment we met. A friend of mine had seen her and concluded that I’d like her” he started
“Una dey pimp for each other?” I inquired, wondering when boys started toasting on behalf of the other. Thought, they just you know, “plucked” whatever girl caught their fancy, “sampled” and decide to move on to the next level or dump her.
“I think he just felt I would like her, that she would be my type” he answered.
“Hmm…go on” I said, all the while thinking somewhere in my mind why his friend who is also single just dashed him a very pretty girl. It didn’t make sense to me. Maybe he had realised the girl wasn’t all that?
“We clicked immediately we started talking on the phone, she was fun and I liked it. When we eventually met, I realised that she wasn’t just photogenic; she was pretty in real life. She grew on me, my friend was right, I did like her” he explained
“Ehn ehn, so how did she move from THE ONE to SO NOT THE ONE?” I asked
“You won’t believe it if I tell you it was something that shouldn’t count. I started noticing this girl gave silly excuses and told lies that shouldn’t even be. She also tried desperately to keep up an appearance I didn’t even care about. For me, I liked her for who she was, I didn’t care about her Brazilian or Peruvian hair, I didn’t care if she could afford Jimmy Choos or Alexander McQueen. I just wanted her but she thought otherwise. She tried a little too hard and it was something I thought I could overlook at first”
I urged him to go on
“There was this day I took her out on a date. It was a dinner date and I had told her to look her best. I dressed up formally and when I went to pick her, I was taken aback by what she had on! I am not the type who cares really, but this one I couldn’t overlook. She wore shorts and a top. And I mean very short pair of shorts. I felt it was inappropriate dressing, especially since it was a cold night. I asked her before we left her home if she was sure she wanted to wear that out and she said why not. She wasn’t comfy during that date. She was everything but comfortable.”
My friend’s girl wasn’t just clueless about how to dress for an occasion, she was also clueless about how to say thank you for little favours.
“She didn’t call me for a long time and whenever I asked, she claimed glo didn’t let her call out. Then one day I transferred credit to her phone via this e-banking thing on my phone and she still didn’t call. When she finally did, I asked her how she was able to finally call out because I couldn’t believe she thought it was too small a favour to be grateful for. Then she told me glo had dashed her credit. Was she that clueless?”
My friend said he was still prepared to let go of these things and move on to having a relationship with her but then she ruined it all.
“She told me her parents were working as top government officials, she lied about the year she was in school and constantly told me with pride that she inflated her school fees at home just so she could keep up with her appearance in school! She didn’t even need to lie to me; I am the one who should try to impress not the other way round. And if she had to impress, did she have to lie about it? I ran from this girl before things got more serious. I can manage a girl who was clueless about some certain things but certainly not a liar”
When he was done narrating his experience, then I asked myself the question all the boys all over the world wanted to know, what do girls want?
I’ve heard my male friends say “you are a girl now, you should know”.
But truthfully, I do not! I only know what I want!