BEAT YOUR WIFE AND JUMP FROM THE BALCONY.
Wife Battering, Rape and Physical abuse seems to be on the rise both Nationwide and Worldwide and my family fell victim to an Experience recently.
MY AUNTY AND HER HUSBAND;
My aunty B and her Husband had been married for over 16 years. I must confess that even as a child I remember that her and her husband had this cold air of indifference around each other. I also believe I have seen her Puffy-eyed and wearing sun-shades unnecessarily once or twice *but just in case any of my family members are reading… don’t quote me!*
Recently, my grand-uncle died and a lot of our family members went to our village for his burial. He was very wealthy and was a titled chief so all hands were on deck to make it a Grand Occasion.
My Dad and Mom, and a few other parents were accommodated at One of my late Grand-Uncle’s Mansions.. *My Aunty-B and her Husband were amongst this group of Residents* At some point during the course of the evening we started hearing LOUD arguments from their room and before you could say “Lekki Toll-Gate” He had started beating up my Aunt in their room. We rushed to the room to try and intervene but the doors were locked. He pummelled my Aunty for about 10 minutes despite our Pleadings. It bled my heart to hear a grown woman crying her heart out while being beaten up by the Man who had Promised “To Love Her till death!”
OPEN DOORS AND OPEN CONFESSIONS!
The door was finally opened and our “In-law” stormed out of the room, he had his bags packed and left immediately for Lagos state. No-one stopped him as we were more interested in consoling our daughter. That was when she started confessing. That her husband had started BEATING her since the 1st year of their wedding and it was getting WORSE as the years rolled on by. He had first started with slaps but had now graduated to head-butts, kicks and punches. She had kept it a secret from friends and family and just put up a brave face in public. She had 3 children and they were not left out as her husband was also very MEAN to them as well.
I couldn’t help but think that “This guy has guts sha!….” my Aunty B is the last born daughter and the only girl, in a family of 5; she in her early 40’s but has 4 elder brothers and all of them so muscular they all look like they can bench-press a bungalow!
BACK TO LAGOS; A FEW WEEKS AFTER THE BURIAL;
My aunty’s brothers insisted on going to see her husband to explain his actions and abusive behaviour. My dad as an elder in the family insisted on following them in case things went sour, and told me to clear a day from my busy schedule and join him to visit Aunty B. My aunty and her family lived in IKEJA so we drove in our car while 3 of my uncles (her brothers) came in a Nissan Armada behind us *1 of her brothers lived in the USA and couldn’t make it for the Trip!* All my uncles are wealthy, married men and were all very pissed off.
WE CAME, WE SAW, THEN ALL HELL BROKE LOOSE!
The meeting took place in their family sitting room, my aunty-B and her husband were quite well to do. He was a successful business man and my aunty worked in an insurance firm. Her brothers (My Uncles) were fearfully CALM and just wanted to know why their in-law had reportedly been beating their sister for over 15years. After over 1 hour of apologies, accusations and refreshments with my aunty’s husband YARNING TOTAL DUST. We all got up to take our leave BUT as we got outside, almost on-cue my uncles started BEATING up Aunty B’s husband. Now when I say Beat up, that is the understatement of the year.. it was a LYNCHING, it was a MASSACRE. Unknown to me and my Dad they had hidden baseball bats and even koboko whips in their SUV and descended on their in-law who had “innocently” escorted them out to their car. They beat my aunty’s husband till he started running, then they chased him down the Street and kept beating him up *it was a comical sight because little street-children in the neighborhood were laughing and jeering as the dude was getting his ass WHOOPED!* Believe it or not, they beat their in-law and left him bruised, battered and half-unconscious in the full view of his neighbours and friends then ignored me and my dad and drove off!
JUMPING FROM THE BALCONY
My dad did not find this whole Lynching funny because according to HIM, my uncles should have respected his presence as an elder and should have behaved themselves. They made it seem like he escorted them there and was a co-conspirator. I had to remind my father that my sister, his daughter is the Last and only girl and she has 3 older brothers. If she marries any man who has the guts to Physically abuse her for over 15years, best believe he will be visited by 3 grown men and “E no sure for the guy say we no go Lynch am.” My dad insisted I follow him to Aunty B’s house; his fear was that because of the Beating, my aunty’s husband might turn out to be more violent to her and her children.
When we got to my aunty’s house we saw the husband on his balcony giving instructions to his security guard. We greeted him and he just mumbled a Response. When we got into the house we told my aunt to go and call her husband. She confessed that since the fight between her husband and her brothers, he has been a genuine sweetheart and there was no back-lash from him. A few minutes later she came down and told us that she couldn’t find her husband, maybe he wasn’t at home. My dad told her that we both saw him on the balcony speaking to the Mai-guard as we were walking in. After we questioned the Guard he told us that OGA jumped from balcony….LMAO!
APPARENTLY HE SUSPECTED THAT WE WERE THERE TO BEAT HIM UP ONE MORE TIME AND JUMPED DOWN FROM HIS BALCONY AND RAN AWAY FROM HIS HOUSE BARE-FOOTED.
PLEASE STOP RAPING AND PHYSICALLY ABUSING WOMEN. IT IS BARBARIC AND JUST PROVES THE MAN TO BE A COWARD.
RAPE AND FEMALE PHYSICAL ABUSE HAS BEEN ON THE RISE BOTH IN NIGERIA AND OVERSEAS AND IS REPORTEDLY EVEN WORSE AMONGST MARRIED COUPLES.
LADIES ALSO NEED TO SPEAK OUT TO STOP THIS TREND, I KNOW THE STIGMA OF BEING “that person that was raped” FORCES YOU TO KEEP QUIET, BUT YOU NEED TO UNDERSTAND THAT RAPISTS NEED TO BE IMPRISONED, AND EVEN SENTENCED TO DEATH.
Sorry for the Hiatus Ladies and Gentlemen, it was due to certain Conditions beyond my control.
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