Dear Reader, before you go further, I’m not a woman but I’ve tried to capture a bit of what I think women WANT sexually.
I am not an expert and unlike Gold circle condoms, this is not a one-size-fits-all situation so this may NOT necessarily apply to everybody but if it talks to you, then shout out loud in the comment section.
Some relationships are heading Isiala Ngwa South because the women involved has refused to communicate in clear terms how they would love to be handled, touched or roughened up sexually.
Ladies, there are no maps in our head and clearly there’s no way you will expect us to know what you want and also because most of you do not wish to be looked at as the subject of Flavour’s “Ashewo” so you keep quiet, not making demands and slowly die of sexual frustration on the inside.
Guys, I don’t really know what women want in bed but I think the below represent a small percentage of what they wish for.
Ladies, if I am wrong, please school us in the comment box
1. Pay compliments to her body
Guys, Ladies love it when you compliment their body and it does not matter if you are seeing her boobs for the 1,000th time, pay her a compliment. Tell her things like
- I like the way your boobs feel in my hands
- You know I will never get used to how beautiful your body is
- I like the way your succulent nipples respond to my fingers
Complimenting her body will not only make her feel good, it will also get her relaxed in your presence. This is highly effective for first timers.
During sex or make out, don’t talk about her bicycle injury that didn’t heal properly or her 4 months and still going on strong weave-on.
She wants to be praised and not humiliated.
2. Attention on her most sensitive region.
Either by asking or exploring, find out her most sensitive region, and then pay more attention to them during foreplay.
You can discover these areas by watching her reactions when you move your hands/mouth/toes, nose… all over body.
Considering that women are not totally moved by what they see, there’s need for that little extra.
Don’t assume that because you have an erection and have undressed her that she’s ready to take the whole 6 inches or more of you.
Work her until she says those 4 magic words… I want you now
3. Eat …Vegetarian or Not.
I have on different occasions, overhead men arguing that they don’t “lacha” and I ask, how can you really talk about food that you’ve not eaten?
There are very few women who do not like head. Most of the people that hate it have not gotten a good one yet.
The key to an awesome head is getting your partner relaxed before going down on her.
Just because a lot of women feel over exposed with their legs hanging on either sides of your shoulders and your eyes looking directly into their temple, there’s need to compliment her on how beautiful her temple looks and all that jazzy talk to get her relaxed before burying your face in.
If you are uncomfortable going down, find out if would be better if you apply ice cream or any other sweetener to make it interesting for you too. You have to enjoy it to create pleasure for your partner.
This is vital for men who are quick to arrive at parties; you can bring her down this way and spend the next 2 minutes pleasing yourself, so that at the end of the day, everybody sleeps happy.
DO NOT ask for a blowjob after you’ve done this, it’s not trade by barter.
4. Talk Dirty
Unless you are a priest (Not sure they don’t), talk dirty to your woman once in a while. The truth is, if you don’t talk dirty to your woman, someone else will.
First you need to find the right time and work it. Phrases like “I will do anything to have you go to dinner with me without panties “, “I saw some shoes that will fit you with no clothes on”. You need to find the level of dirty that she can handle and keep to it.
Sext her at work, BB her your dirty thoughts. Keep it simple and don’t abuse it.
Come with up with naughty names for some parts of her body. Don’t call her boobs “Ka odibara chukwu” though.
5. Everywhere but the bed.
As cliché as this may sound but 9 out of 10 times, your woman wants sex on every platform that can support her frame other than the bed/sofa.
Take your sex life to beyond the borders but with a little caution.
Try the slab in the kitchen after the dinner; the back seat of your car after a night out at the club; the balcony after a good football match or the male room in between dinner at a restaurant.
While you at it find out if she likes a lil bit of roughness or being spanked in a doggy position, SPANK NOT HIT.
Bed your bed a sleeping platform and less of a sex stadium.
Dudes, just like gifts, women like to be surprised. Don’t make sex something that come immediately after dinner or the last thing before going to sleep.
Surprise her once in a while. Grab her in the kitchen; let your self in while she’s in the showers and sometimes request that you both meet at home for lunch.
Grab her ass in public places out if the sight of others and never in disrespectable ways.
Surprise her with sex but also add a little “Thank You” sex gift sometimes.
This is the most important thing on this list, If you do all of the above without satisfying her, you have achieved nothing.
Just because sex is not Words with Friends” that you can play half way and continue the day after, you need to complete each session.
Don’t cum and roll over leaving your partner hanging, if she garbs the Vibe after sex, you better be on ground to work it for her.
All of the above may not work for you but it does, don’t forget to thank me later.