“I hope you don’t mind that I put down in words, how wonderful life is, while you’re in the world.”
I first heard these words in the Hollywood musical “Moulin Rouge”. I have recently discovered that this song; “Your Song” was originally performed by Sir Elton John. This piece was inspired by the words written above.
I haven’t exactly been a good friend, my mood has been sour these past few days and I’ve snapped at her a lot. Yet first thing in the morning I get an IM from her saying “Good morning babe, how was your night?” She is forgiving of my faults and chooses to hang in there in spite of me. I know she’ll love that I’ve put down in words, how wonderful my life is, because she’s in it.
We had a major fight and I thought to myself “this is it …the end”. He said mean things and I threw hateful words his way. I demanded for an apology and he said he wasn’t going to give me one. It has been two years since our fight, he is still in my life, driving his black car while I ride shotgun as the mixed CD I made for him plays. Thankfully we got over our pettiness and I know he won’t mind that I’ve put down in words, how wonderful my life is, because he’s in it.
She said “tell me something funny and I’ll follow back”. I consider myself a funny person, so I took up her challenge, she followed back. Then it began, I made it a duty to say hello daily, and one day I asked for her PIN. I got it. I remember the night I was really depressed and I confided in her, she had all the right words. My depression didn’t vanish, but she helped me realise it would not break me. I know she’ll be flattered that I’ve put down in words, how wonderful my life is, because she’s in it.
Our shared love for radio brought us together. He tells me how special I am to him at least thrice a week. I call him Sir Teddy, I plucked this nickname out of the sky, but I think it suits him. He says I’m a blessing to him, he is wrong; he is a blessing to me. He has a purity and openness about him that is rare. He is so appreciative of the little things I do for him that I am constantly trying to outdo myself. He will be pleased that I’ve put down in words, how wonderful my life is, because he’s in it.
Consider these; a new phone might make you the envy of your friends, but the smile on your face as you read an IM from a dear friend will make you the envy of the world. That new car might you happy, but the company of a friend riding shotgun will bring you joy. When you’re sad listening to a love song might cheer you up, but the wisdom of a friend will take away your loneliness. Giving strangers alms might please you. However the unreserved appreciation from a friend whose dreams you help achieve will heal you.
I am blessed not because of the things I own, but because of the people invested in my life. I’ve come to realise that my happiest moments do not lie in the time spent with stuff, but in time shared with people. The truth is that some people in your life will hurt you, others will take you for granted and some will make you regret opening your hearts to them. But once in a while, you’ll find that “diamond in the rough”. It is these diamonds you must seek and once found, take them home with you, without a backward glance.
True friends make you count your blessings daily. True friends are not the judges in your court trial; they are your defence lawyers. True friends are not spectators in your soccer match; they are your team mates. True friends are not wardens in your prison, they are your cellmates.
We search ceaselessly for that special one, the one we think will complete us that we end up ignoring those special “someones” already in our lives. Love is not found under the apple tree but in that gulp from the bottle of la casera (apple juice) your friend paid for, as you both stroll to class under the midday sun. So here’s a little assignment, make a list of the special people in your life and thank them.
I’ll start, thank you to the “four” I’ve written about; Tammy, Titan, Mohawk and Sir Teddy. Thank you to Amaju, Yossie, Olumide, Nkem, Pampam, Segun and Franque. I’m blessed because you’re invested in me. So I hope you don’t mind that I’ve put down in words how wonderful my life is, while you’re in it.
P.S. I’m sorry if I’ve neglected to mention your name, it is really late at night as I write this and sleep beckons. Thank you and God bless you for being in my life.
“Dear friend, I hope you don’t mind that I put down in words, how wonderful life is, while you’re in the world.”
Thank you for reading.