I’m gradually getting to that point where there are fewer things to complain about but knowing my Nigerian people, I’m sure they would not fail to disappoint me. Out of curiosity for the last three weeks every person I’ve met has been asked a series of questions, it’s my own way of doing a case study and the responses have been affirmative. I’m sure you’re all itching for the said questions, well I’ll kill the suspense and blurt it out, I’ve simply been asking people’s opinions on WEDDINGS (their plans, how much they intend to spend, how many guests, etc). Four out of five Nigerians wants to get married (not a real statistic, and I should point out gender but won’t) and due to the financial state of the world in the last few years would preferably have a little left after the event.
My reason for this case study is based solely on the fact that every Tom, Dick and Harriet I went to school with, worked with and even shared a bottle of Coke with is getting hitched and leaving me behind. Now, that is a good thing – I have no qualms about people wanting to settle down and start a new adventure, the only question I have in return is how do they do it, which is a question I’ve posed to most of my friends, to elaborate a bit further this question is posed to people I know are upwardly mobile and haven’t reached any peak of any sorts.
What do I mean; well in plain language; How does a less than 3million per annum earner do a wedding and start a home? I know sometimes miracles occur, and people chip in and help out, and some people are opportuned with sizeable trust fund and deep pocketed folks. I’ve been told sometimes you’ve got to take a leap of faith and hope there’s a cushion at the end, but I’m black and do not indulge in extreme sports. The commonest answer I’ve received is to make it a small wedding, but a reduction in quantity does not conversely imply appreciation in quality. In my opinion, however momentous a wedding is, it is first and foremost a shindig – and like every party, it is assessed on its entertainment value.
I think it’s safe to assume everyone has been for one great gig or another, and a wedding being what it is should surpass all other parties (makes sense don’t it). And a great party is only accomplished by a fat wad of cash, so therefore no matter how tiny the crowd is ( ‘cept you’re inviting oompalumpahs) a wedding still adds up to a whole load of cash.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not being excessive or trying to avoid retiring my pimp belt, I just don’t want to invite 50 people to the party of my life and serve them white rice and stew and little cubes of meat, neither do I want to give them bottled coke and sprite, with cascade water only for the high table, call me whatever you want I believe your wedding day should have some panache. I am on the other hand not saying you should spend all your savings on throwing an over elaborate wedding, pulling out all the stops for one day, when some of that money could have been saved for the years ahead. I think everything should be in moderation, but moderation doesn’t mean an omission of class.
In my sanctimonious opinion, I think taking my time to ensure my wedding is a tasteful, classy and elegant event is the best decision ever made by a boy and also considering my fundraising for the new GL is almost complete, ensures I spend the next few months, maybe years in bachelor licentiousness.
What say you?