I have quite a number of friends and they include a lot of ladies. My ‘girlfriends’ always pour their hearts out to me when they get heartbroken and I lend my shoulder for them to lean on. I console and advise them but at the end of it all, time is what heals their wounds. Recently one of them came to me in her time of ‘need’ and as usual I did all I could but then she posed a question- Why do guys cheat on ladies? This question required careful thought so I pondered before I came up with answers.
To some schools of thought, lust leads to love. A guy first ‘wants’ you before he loves you. He likes what he sees and that’s what draws him to you in the first place. Its when he comes to you that he finds out your background and gets to know your character and personality. So, after you put him through your ‘tests’ and the feeling of love is mutual make sure you treat him well and give him a ‘reward’ in bed or else he will RUN. Men are just ‘sophisticated monkeys’; they love sex like all other animals. They see sex as the ‘ultimate’ reward so your refusal to give it to them makes them feel unappreciated.
Some men are very greedy. These men believe their sole purpose on earth is to sleep with all the women in the world. They can undress a lady all covered up like an eskimo with their eyes. It’s just their nature. I’m sorry if you have a man like this but there’s nothing you can do to stop him from cheating. He may always come back to you but the ‘cheating blood’ flows in his veins. Even when he’s with you, he’s still thinking of other ladies. All you can do is monitor him with a GPS and set up CCTV cameras everywhere because he’s not going to stop at anything.
‘Once beaten, twice shy’– some men live their lifes around this adage. For every action, there’s equal but opposite reaction. They have been badly hurt in the past by ladies and believe all are the same and won’t give any lady another chance. They have sworn an oath to themselves never to get hurt and instead decide to punish ladies for what they’ve gone through.
Another set of men exist who take actions out of fear. They are scared of getting hurt and suffer from ‘fear of the unknown’. They feel their girlfriends go haywire once they are not with them so they decide to cheat on them since they claim not to know what their girlfriends are up to.
There are the set of men who are not happy with their girlfriends’ characters. Maybe these girls are lazy, dirty, can’t cook, demand too much money or just have a way of pissing them off and as such they see cheating on them as a way of getting back at them instead of confronting them outrightly and trying to resolve the problem.
The last set of men are those who cheat on their girlfriends for money. YES, male prostitution does exist! They just find a chick or a sugar-mummy to sleep with for her money and more often than not they spend the chick’s money on their girlfriends.
These were the reasons I could come up with for my friend. I’m sure there are loads of other reasons that you readers know so feel free to share those.
Some men are actually very ‘holy and righteous’ and as such all these does not refer to them.