Is it possible to be Straight and Stay friends with a Gay Person?

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Everyone has got a choice. Everyone has a right to life. If we were to select our friends based on their being faultless, the word FRIENDSHIP would only be a mirage. Show me your friend and I’ll tell you who you are, BUT, you are not all about your friend.

That one is gay doesn’t make him any less human but unique in a special way. That you are NOT gay doesn’t make you better. It’s a better deal if we look forward to learning something new from everyone we come across; bad or good, homo or hetero, as the moment we stop learning, we stop living. It’s no hear-say that there is something exciting about the person next to you, so, grab every opportunity to discover it.

There happened to be a gay dude in my first year at the University. Initially, I was very disgusted because his was so obvious. He used to catwalk!!! I later got to know that he was leading the class and that got me thinking. As an average student, I prefer to mingle with the very brilliant ones and that left me no option than to get close to him. I did not regret it. One day, we got talking on the issue of him being gay. He had discovered himself at the age of 16. He realized that he fantasized a lot about cute guys instead of beautiful girls. Also, his body chemistry was never alive whenever he was with girls. At first, he tried fighting it and be ‘normal’, but he couldn’t contend with nature.

In my curiosity, I asked if he was in any relationship and his answer was in the positive. That was enough for me to take in and so, I asked no further questions. What struck me the most was the joy in his eyes and him being content with his being.

In the end, he was able to change my perspective about gay people which was, that they were dumb asses. He made it sink in that they could also make positive impact on the lives of others. We became good friends and still are.

I believe the world would be a better place if we accept people for who they are, tolerate them to the best of our abilities and be happy for them.

But then, everyone still has a CHOICE.

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20 comments

  1. Oh puhleeeeese gimme a break! A gay person is unique in a special way??? U’ve got to be kidding me. Are u saying God intended for some people to be gay? Its NOT ok to be gay. Its NEVER ok to be gay. God doesn’t go wrong. He made Adam and eve not Adam and Steve!! Straight is the only way to be. Everyother thing is of and from the devil. He found himself fantasizing about cute boys my nostrils!! KMT!!!!!

  2. RELAX NWANYIOMA… NOBODY IS SAYING BEING GAY IS COOL. THE TOPIC SAYS “IS IT POSSIBLE TO BE STRAIGHT AND STAY FRIENDS WITH A GAY PERSON?”
    THE QUESTION HERE IS FRIENDSHIP NOT ABOUT ENCOURAGING FAGGOTS.

    AGREED, IT’S A DEMONIC ACT, BUT IF YOU DON’T TRY TO GET CLOSER TO THEM AND TRY TO SHOW THEM THE SANE WAY, THEN BABY GIRL, THEIR POPULATION IS ABOUT TO BE ON THE INCREASE.

    IT MIGHT NOT BE AS EASY AS IT IS SPOKEN TO BE A FAGGOT’S FRIEND, BUT IF YOU WERE PAYING ATTENTION TO WHAT THE ARTICLE REPRESENTS, YOU WOULD HAVE SEEN THE LAST LINE, WHICH SAYS “BUT THEN, EVERYONE STILL HAS A CHOICE.

  3. Mehhnnnn…. soon everyone goes i’m entitled too my own opinion ni????
    Well is either the gay dude converts that straight brother or home boi is in the closet…
    To me it ain’t normal at all..
    if we are friends and your gay please end the friendship before i find out
    hmmmmmmmmm

  4. Beef no go gree me. Haba wen there aint enuff guys to go round d ladies,then they take the guys also? Its a No for me abeg.

  5. As for me I’m a chronic homophobic person….so even though I might accept the fact that he/she discovered himself, we can never be more than Hi-Hi friends, i’ll feel as insecure as a girl going to sleep in Nob’s Bed everytime he/she’s around me.

  6. Now it’s about “GAY”…I’m pretty sure Nobs is one. And at the bottom of the article,he wrote “gorgeous…wha’ever”. U’ve been friends with a gay since your 1st year???? It simply tells me you’ve been a hole to this guy. What’s attractive in an anus? A place where only one thing is stored;faeces. Oh! gays are dirty people! PS: Watch your comments with me, cos some of u are only here to make reference(s) to others’ comments.

    1. @Ceb guess i’m of those …either u were ill most of d time when English classes were on or u type faster than ur brain can understand a signature block in an article

      Nobs didnt write this article, my straight friend did …get a life and stop castigating GAY men. smh …people like u have had anal sex with women n yet u judge them. Big idiot

  7. No fighting,how come Nobs is coming up on this? Can’t we just air our views politely and move on? Meanwhile,I don’t want to find out if my friend is gay because impulsively,I’ll build up high walls around me before I even realise so.

  8. personally, even the thought of any guy being gay disgusts me! no offence! but why the hell will someone prefer guys to girls? i mean how can you? something must be terribly wrong somewhere cos i dont think that is how God or science or whatever we believe is responsible for creation planned it! there”s a reason guys have an extension and ladies have a hole u know? the extension is supposed to fit into the hole! and to think that these people actually have sex with other guys! yhuck!! i was even watchn the royal wedding the other day and i saw elton john and his boyfriend walking into the church!! i felt like shooting them! im hoping someone will convince me otherwise but i really feel sorry for and disgusted by any guy that prefers guys to girls! thats my opinion!

  9. Great writing nobs!
    People shud be free to be watever they want to be. Being gay does not make u smarter/dumber.
    We shud learn not to judge people.
    I love u!

  10. I have numerous gay friends that I’d go out of my way to help, and I’m a straight woman. I find it ridiculous that people think they have a right to tell us what is demonic and what isn’t. Who the fuck are you to reduce an entire person to the person they’re attracted to? All of a sudden, it doesn’t matter if they’re kind, patriotic, honest, etc. All they become is who they choose to make out with or have sex with.
    Are you fucking kidding me? No one judges dudes who like to have anal sex, no one comes into your bedroom to tell you how to sleep with that girl/dude. People need to live their lives and get their damn noses out of other people’s businesses.

  11. BTW, I love the hypocrisy on here. I guess it didn’t occur to anyone that women can be gay too. Abi that one is normal? Dudes are turned on by two women making out; in fact they want to have a threesome. I guess that’s why when the ‘gay’ word comes up, the first/only thing y’all think about is dudes. Biko GTFOH! And then proudly announcing your homophobia like it’s some honorable act, straight bullshit. Tell me how you’d feel if someone announced on this site that he/she was racist and had a phobia of Black people/Nigerians.

    1. So I sampled the opinions of my 85 BB contacts last night. My question was “if you find out tomorrow that I am gay, will you still be my friend”. Gbam! My phone was on set on fire…..some folks have too much fun, some said I have lost it, some wana know why I have kept it a secret all this while, some said they have already been suspecting me for a while(lol)..OK a former school mate freaked out and deleted me cos it was too much for him to handle (dude is super religious).

      At the end of the night, only 30 people said they are cool with me as long as their as*es are not on the line. 10 said they were my friends not becos I wasn’t gay, so if I am now, they are just fine but some things have to change. The rest quoted different bible verses to justify why they will never associate with me anymore (talking about affinity btw believers and non believers).
      The most potent point of them all was mentioned by a colleague (whom I always considered anti-Christ becos of some many terms I found blasphemous with his numerous utterances about issues that bother on Christianity). He said when God destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah; people were fornicating and committing adultery, so he left those and smote all the HOMOSEXUALS. Isn’t this enough reason for you to believe that God specifically found this act totally repulsive?

      1. And I call bullshit. So, what you’re telling me is God has a hierarchy of repulsion & the saying “there is no small sin or big sin” is incorrect. If you’re a slut (male or female), a materialistic person, a cheat, a yahoo boy, a womanizer, a rapist, or a big time embezzler, it’s not as bad as if you’re gay?

        If people would get past their narrow-mindedness, you would realize that being gay is not a choice. Why would anyone put themselves through rejection at the hands of family & friends, societal condemnation, & religious denunciation just to experiment with something? Gay people in Uganda face being thrown in jail, even those in the U.S. & Canada commit suicide, and you still think it’s a choice?
        Nah, you decide to accept your gayness because you recognize that it’s the only way you can be happy and live your life in the best way possible. My friends who are gay range from assholes to the most loyal, generous people on this earth. Everyone knows many religious people are a preachy bunch who love to throw Bible verses around even if they’re the biggest greedy people or womanizers or ashewos carrying HIV virus in their system. And frankly, their happiness means more to them and me than the fear that God may find them repulsive.

  12. Let him that’s without sin cast the first stone. For all our righteous brodas and sistas castigating gays I think you should go back to your bible and enimulate the life of christ. Jesus made friends with the unbelievers so that he could show us the way and he even died for out sins to prove it.

  13. Divided opinions as usual, I’m loving all the drama, feeling like a thespian….sowi i digress

    Personally (unlike some earlier commentators), i will stick with the topic “Is it possible to be Straight and Stay friends with a Gay Person?” YES and NO.

    I know a couple of fags in Festac town, where i reside; they live two blocks away from me. I don’t have issues with them cos we don’t go more than “hello – Hi”(they even held a beauty pageant recently, such #fuckery).

    Sometimes last year, i went to a friend’s house who is supposedly a choir master in his church (a popular church in Festac oo, hmm) to collect a flash drive, football match was on the TV so i decided to stay back and watch. Barely 25mins after, this dude started acting repulsive by placing hands across my neck, acting all mushy. Initially, i was not bothered not until when his hands were going to my “pack” (I still cringe at that thought), then i knew there was trouble. So I rained abuses on him, gave him a straight punch(i wished my hand was stronger) to his face and left his flat with his neighbours wondering what must have gone wrong because I was shouting on top of my voice( I only told a few family friends whom I know regularly go to his flat.

    Sorry for bothering you with this epistle but the moral of the story is that if a gay friend keeps himself in check, i might just be cool with him (meaning no hang out, no party except business but really it’s a tough call.

  14. i say it any day,any time I AM HOMOPHOBIC.one thing that i know is what is wrong is wrong.there are some qualities that are expected of us,it sounds shallow but when a guy opens his mouth and claims his am sorry that guy juss sold his birth right.being gay is nt someting u cant fight.nw am starting to have second tots about u.

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