“It’s a man’s world”… I know you girls have heard this phrase a million times. So many women have come to resent this phrase especially in the 21st century. The women who existed in the 19th and 20th century never really minded or cared to challenge male dominance in the world. Some believed it was man’s divine right to dominate the earth *the rationalization that God created man first* while others believed a woman’s place was beneath her husband *believe me the African culture didn’t help either*.
In the 21st century, with emphasis on concepts like feminism, gender equality etc, male superiority is being questioned. There’s a gradual restructuring of the man- woman dynamics. Now we have career women like Oprah Winfrey, Tyra Banks, Mo Abudu, female presidents *Liberia’s president is a woman, Germany’s Chancellor is a woman*, Hilary Clinton holds a key position in the US government. Women are now rising to the challenges of life.
I don’t have a problem with a woman aspiring to great heights or fighting for equality. But this fight must cut across all facets of life. However, in Nigeria there’s still one aspect of life women tend to leave out which is ‘showing their affection or confronting a guy and telling him about their feelings‘. I wonder how women can clamor for equality and still believe there are areas where we shouldn’t be equal.
I’ve heard statements like ‘it will make me look cheap’, ‘he’s a man, why can’t he come to me?’, or ‘what if he ignores me?’ these are rationalizations women tend to fall back on to avoid taking a stand on matters of the heart. How can you want to be president, own a company, show men you’re not just a weak vessel and u can’t tell a man how u feel about him first. A girl once told me told me its better to speak through body language and hope the guy understands *what a funny idea*.
I believe women shy away from voicing out their feelings to a man first in order to avoid the pain of rejection. When a guy makes his feelings known to a girl and she dismisses it he feels hurt too *believe me I know how it feels, it’s a bad feeling*. I think the ladies should understand this.
Men go for what they want, some are shy or are afraid of rejection but in the long run they go for what they want. In a world that is gradually becoming male-female dominated, women (girls and ladies inclusive) should be able to go for what they want especially in matters of the heart. To the guys reading this, I’m not saying you should sit down and cross your legs waiting for the sisters to come. I just want the women to know that the world is changing fast and certain rules are now obsolete, others are trying to adapt while new rules are being made.
If you make the first move as a lady and a guy laughs at you know he’s a jerk and he isn’t worth your time. Making the first move won’t make you look cheap, it just proves you know what you want and you are going after it.
The women might believe I’m wrong *there’s no reason why I can’t be* well to this question, there’s no right or wrong answer, just the realization that it doesn’t matter who goes first but if you want something go after it.
Article written by Abido for the Catholic.