Relationships… sometimes I wonder if I’m okay or not just human. Everyone around me thinks being in a relationship is a life goal. I believe it will be simpler if a relationship is considered a contract and not anything out of the ordinary. I will like to know your point view however I wish to explain certain things.
I wonder what gets people ticking, why they feel being in a romantic relationship is necessary. Not that I’m judging but some people are needy or just don’t understand the dynamics of a relationship.
I’ve observed that there are two ships that set sail in the life of a man. One is Friendship and the other Relationship. You then notice that the first ship to set sail is friendship, I might be wrong but friendship lasts longer than romantic relationships (but that’s just me). Take a second to think, how many boyfriends or girlfriends have you had in your lifetime and how many friends do you have?
Back to my point
These questions keep coming back to me, is it compulsory to be involved in a relationship? Is it an achievement? Not being involved in a relationship, does it make you an odd individual?
I have friends who have been in relationships for 3, 4, 5 years. I’ve seen the ups and downs of relationships and I recognize the inability of man to recognize when a relationship is failing. However, the surprising thing is that most of them have either quit the relationship or are stressed out.
Then I ask, why do you stick with someone for 3, 4, 5 years of your life (36, 48, 60 months), when you could have been doing something more productive with such time, then end the relationship. This is actually the funny part they can’t proffer me with an answer. Then it hits me, people confuse dating for courtship, i mean just because conflict involves violence doesn’t make it organized warfare.
The inability of people to draw a fine line between dating and courtship has been responsible for much heartbreaks (the usual outcome of a broken relationship). While courtship is a prelude to marriage, dating on the other hand is having a social or romantic partner not necessarily leading to marriage. People put too much effort into dating (one form of relationship) thinking it’s a courtship(another distinct form of relationship) especially in Nigeria where there’s this notion that every relationship must end at the altar.
The earlier people realize this difference the better for them * but I might not be right*. In addition to the mix-up, the notion of love and being in love also complicates relationships and leads to their abrupt end. Have you ever heard of drowning your partner in the sea of love but that’s for another time.
This is the month of love have fun. I wish everyone in a successful relationship good luck and people in a rocky relationship good luck…. Till next time.
Article written by Abido