Valentine’s Day is the 24hrs dedicated to open and public affection for your loved one *this is not to say the other 364 or 363 days don’t count*. Gifts are bought, presents are given out, people are usually surprised by their gifts and love is declared loud and clear *people who aren’t even in relationships have fun*.
I’m actually not writing to describe the modus operandi of the day or its history but the statement made by a friend several years ago. “I don’t believe in Valentine’s” he said, that statement made me laugh so hard I started to cry.
I’ll confess, in the last four years I have spent Valentine’s Day alone. Either I’m out drinking with friends single like me or home alone drinking a bottle of red wine *believe me a bottle of red wine is so beautiful and it doesn’t complain or nag… lol*. I spend this special day alone *actually the day is special* because I’m never in a relationship at the time and not because I don’t believe in valentine’s like my friend.
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That statement got me thinking, why should an individual not believe in Valentine or express love to his spouse or partner on that special day. Then I realised, my friend didn’t want to spend his money on buying gifts. Come to think of it besides your partner’s birthday, Valentine ’s Day is the next time your account goes red. I must confess some guys are stingy and they see Valentine’s Day as the time they have to spend their money and they resent it.
You might disagree with me but the are relationships in which the guy never buys his girlfriend a gift or vice-versa.
In the last 11 years, I have witnessed 11 valentine’s day and believe me the gift exchange on that day is never equal, it’s either the girlfriend doesn’t get her boyfriend anything * a kiss will do, can he complain? She will just say aren’t I worth more to you than a gift, what does he then say ‘sorry baby, you’re one in a million…funny* or the guy’s gift will cost more than his girlfriend’s. The thing is girls don’t necessarily need to impress boys but we boys need to impress them *we’ve been doing that right from our primary school days, if you ladies don’t know* that’s why our accounts go red.
Really you don’t need to spend all your savings before your partner knows you love them. The gift is just a demonstration of love; it’s the affection and love that counts. This is not to say you shouldn’t buy your partner a gift but don’t bankrupt yourself in the process * besides, those people selling valentine gifts also need money*.
To all the people out there who don’t believe in Valentines like my friend, this year have a change of heart. Spend for your loved ones; don’t tell her or him “Everyday is Valentine’s”. I’m still single this year but I wont spend it alone, I’ll spend the day with a person rather than a bottle *sorry red wine*.
Remember this is the season of love, show love and feel loved. HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY.
Written by Abido