“I have found the paradox that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt but only more love” – Mother Teresa
God knows I love this woman but this quote, I don’t agree with, WHY??? Because I feel love is something that shouldn’t hurt at all. When you get to the point that it hurts, what comes next is tolerance. This is the stage where you get irritated by everything your partner does.
I know this all sounds like garbage, so I’d explain how I think you can love someone to the extent that it hurts you….
Basically, like everything in life, you can only get disappointed if you were actually expecting something.
So lets put a relationship in context; On different occasions we begin to think that we love our partners more than they love us (in my opinion, there isn’t a problem with that because most definitely, you two cant love each other the same way).
This happens because we do some things that we expect them (our partners) to do in return but they end up not doing.
For example, you follow your boyfriend/husband to go watch a football game (even though you don’t like it) but then because he doesn’t go with you the following week to a fashion show you begin to feel hurt. *But really, A FASHION show* …
This continuous habit of thinking the other person just doesn’t want to reciprocate your love, is what gets you fed up of a perfectly normal relationship.
The best way to have a good relationship without feeling unwanted is:
1. Expect Nothing, so you never get disappointed
2. Give everything, without thinking of what you are going to get back