I don’t know about you, but reading Mills & Boons and watching soap operas while growing up really screwed with my idea of what love is.
As far as I was concerned, just like it was for the Heroes and Heroines in the stories, once the magic words were said, then like ‘Open Sesame’, I would be ushered into a fairytale world of happily-ever loving.
What a crock of Bullshit!!
Isn’t it amazing that even in my illusion of Maturity, I still imagine on some level that once the words ‘I love you’ are said, then its bliss from then on?!
“I love you”
I can’t lie, the words are sweet to the ear sha!! But that’s about all they do, satisfy the craving for affirmation within us all.
True Love has nothing to do with the effect a relationship has on you, but the impact you are making on the other person.
If saying “I love you” could change everything, then the world will be an utopian paradise by now. Saying the L phrase has become in relationships, what ‘Wassap’ and ‘How far’ has become in our everyday interactions.
You never really have an answer to those questions, we just say them because they have become a part of our vocabulary.
How many guys or girls have whispered ‘I love you’ to their significant other, and waited with bated breath at what the response will be?!
Since when did expressing your heart to someone become a proposal in itself? Let’s face it, if the love you are expressing is real, then it wouldn’t matter so much whether the person you tell replies the same to you.
LOL…I know how painful it can be to tell someone ‘I love you’ and they reply ‘Thank You’ or ‘I know’!!
But in truth, Love is better expressed through our actions, rather than our words.
It is foolhardy to judge whether someone loves us or not by if they have told us the magic words.
Hearing ‘I love you’ is good, don’t get it twisted…but showing ‘I love you’ is of greater value.
So it will do us all a truckload of good if we communicated our Love in the choices we make and actions we take toward the people in our lives, rather than judging by three highly overused and overrated words.
Even if we want to know if we are loved by another, we should focus on what their actions toward us are speaking, instead of waiting for their words to reveal Love.
I guess the bottomline of all I’m saying is LET YOUR “I LOVE YOU” BE MORE IN ACTION THAN IN TALK.
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