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There are three parts to every man:

The man he was, the man he is, and the man he can be.

The journey of every Man into his destiny can only truly begin when he crosses over into being the Man he can be. Every Man needs help in finding that point at which he will make that ultimate crossover.

And that’s where you, my Lady, comes in.

‘Arresting’ a man with your lovings primarily entails the spiritually insightful task of helping him discover himself.

Life can be very confusing for even the strongest of men; but like every other person on this earth, even he needs help.

Contrary to all we’ve been made to believe about relationships, being with a man is not all about what he is bringing into your life. As exemplified in the famous words of John F. Kennedy, in his speech about what one’s relationship with your country should be, “ask not what your MAN can do for you, but what YOU can do for your MAN”.

For reasons only God Himself can fathom, he has structured our gender make-up in such a way that a Man needs a Woman much more than Women actually need men. A Man is incomplete without his chosen woman; he will go through life empty and without a true sense of purpose, until he finds that woman who God has designed to help in discovering himself.

This gives you, my dear lady friend, so much power and responsibility, as finding you is the key to unlocking the destiny of that man.

Therefore you need to be wise. You need to be strong; you need to be a woman of dignity. He must find no compromise whatsoever in you. He has to respect you, not just because you are his woman, but because in you, he sees everything that he desires to be.

He needs to be able to look into your eyes, and see a clear picture of who he can be. You are the mirror into his future. Your words need to be the voice of purpose in his life.


You can only be all this to him, if you yourself are strong in your own sense of Identity. The blind cannot lead the blind; neither can the lost help another to be found. You must have discovered yourself first.

So whether or not that man has come, your major priority right now should be in consciously looking within yourself to understand who you are and what you carry. Then devote your every moment to walking in the integrity and truth of who God has made you to be.

A God-woman.

Fearless, whole, strong, sexy, giving; a Builder, a Nurturer, a Friend, a Lover.

Get this right, my friend, and I can assure you that in less than no time, you will have the man you haven’t even dared to dream about, reading his own Miranda rights, begging to be ‘arrested’ in your lovings.

Tari’s blog is www.tariere.blogspot.com also follow @TariEkiyor on Twitter.

Tari Ekiyor

Tari Ekiyor

The quirky and humorous musings of a young writer who is determined to have nothing short of the best of everything in spite of the fact that everything seems to be trying to have the best of her. Welcome to S-I-R (STRONG INDEPENDENT & RELEVANT). You can also catch Tari on her blog www.tariere.blogspot.com.


  1. Men need women – more than they need us – to get lost! As exemplified in the story of the 1st couple.
    But that’s besides the point. Point is, I agree wiv everythin u have said above. It’s just a shame the number of women that patrol this here world clueless!
    Well written yet again Tari. Well written.

  2. I think it will work. Some might say it is too idealistic but at the end of the day a good dose of optimism, with a reasonable dose of realism tempered with a healthy serving of faith and prayer will do the trick. At least once the guy is meant to be arrested by the particular girl

  3. Having read all of ur posts as seen on 360nobs, I’m wondering, whr has tari bin all ma life. Gone from booty call, 2 main squeeze. Now, I do believe, I’m redi 2 b ma man’s God-woman, so help me GOD. U totally naild ds piece. @tari, may ur lamp neva run outta oil

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