I had a conversation last week with a friend; she was wailing and complaining that she caught her boyfriend in a lie and that she didn’t want to be in a relationship full of lies. Sister, I hear you!!!.
But then she says “I ALWAYS want people to be upfront with me and tell me the truth regardless” Errr, Always? really? This was coming from a babe who at the moment in question, had on the worst type of weave known to man. Both in texture and color, it looked like she just pinned some furry animal atop her head and it could leap off on its own accord at any moment. Did her clamor for truth extend to me telling her that she looked worse than a “pension-starved prostitute” using Tari’s words (tariere.blogspot.com).
Really, just how much truth can we as humans subject ourselves to? Sometimes, over-telling can be as bad as not telling. Now don’t get me wrong, I believe trust should be the bedrock of any relationship but do I really want to be told the absolute truth at every turn? And should I return the favor?
Should I for instance tell that babe at work that her love for colorful and misshapen clothes makes her look like a circus clown reject?
What about that pretentious twit that tries too hard to impress?
Or the lady that comes round to take food orders at work, that her excessive use of black eye and lip-liner just make her look dirty, scruffy and evil. (Besides, why would anybody in their right state of mind use black lip liner?!?!?!)
Enter the White Lie, Protector of would-be bruised egos and hurt feelings, used to avoid offense and to calm ruffled feathers.
Would you believe that there are 21 different kinds of lies in Wikipedia?! From the Jocular lie to the Barefaced lie. Like seriously, is someone just sitting down somewhere and inventing different ways to justify his entry into the pearly gates. “St. Peter, com’on it wasn’t a lie actually, I was just being “economical with the truth”
So back to the question, how much truth can we take? Quite little, I find. We may go round touting all the virtues of truth-telling but we don’t want it dished straight-up and in our faces at every turn.
A little white lie here and there never hurt nobody.