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I’m a 33year old Nigerian female, single and obviously being disturbed by my parents to get married, whilst I’m ready and willing to get married, I’m not ready to settle for a man who is just starting life; crucify me if you may but I’m only interested in an already made man, I’m just trying to secure my future.  I’ve entered enough public transport to last me a life time and I’m tired of splitting my salary in 2 (half for me, half for boyfriend).  I want a better life than I have now and more importantly I’m thinking about my unborn children, I want to give them the opportunities I never got. I don’t see how this can be achieved marrying a man who is still doing the hustle.

I’ll take the words right out of some people’s mouths, “gold digger”! I’ve been labelled that so it’s not new but I ask, is there anything wrong in seeking only already made men/women?  Is that really gold digging?

I really need your opinons on this……pleasssssseeeeeeeeeee.

Let’s discuss this.

Chioma Halima Olabode

Chioma Halima Olabode

Chioma Halima Olabode is born of an Igbo dad and Yoruba mum in Jos, Northern Nigeria. An avid lover of Nigerian music and PS games. Deputy manager in an IT firm during the day and Vodka lover at night. Follow me on 360nobs for THE PILL on my precise thoughts on all sorts of Nationwide or Worldwide silliness.


  1. there is nothing wrong..nothing…wrong . y must u suffer again after the hassle of hard life. plzz my dear go for one whose’s already made. that whole crap of marrying a man the same age with you and struggle to find work is the epitome of poverty in the making.

  2. It ain’t gold digging…… besides, the men u would go for (mid 30s to 40s) should already be comfortable, else wahala dey.

    I say, DO YOU

  3. I think there is only something wrong if you are only interested in the “Made Man’s” money. I.e. The only factor u need when considering if someone is an eligible husband is if he is rich or not and if (God Forbid) Sometime down the line he falls on hard times, you bounce in a flash. But i believe just as Guys look for Women with nice shape (for example) or pretty face, a lady can also be more attracted to a “Made Guy”. I believe being “comfortable” is just one of many factors that come into play when someone is deciding on a suitable partner, but its a valid factor none the less. Like Height, Looks, Does he/she snore, family background etc. Lets face it, you have to live with your partner for the rest of your (or his/her) life. You might as well be comfortable with your choice.

  4. uh hell to the no! absolutely nothing wrong in making that one of the things to look out for in a life partner. i’m not saying money over love and all the other factors but i’m saying money inclusive.
    biko, after all the trying that my father tried, wld i now live a ‘sub-standard’ life?
    that said, i’m bringing a whole lot to the table so why should i end up with a dude who doesn’t measure up?

  5. Babes…who ever said gold digging was a bad idea shld be shot…for mii right nw NO GOLD..NO STRAFF NO LOVE,we r going bck to d cash at hand n ma heart is all urs era…

  6. The truth is; do you really want to marry or u’re tryna please ur parents? If not juz make urself already made cos this days made men’re not looking for “liabilities” they go for an equal class(you know what i mean)to boost their asset base. On important thing is prayer cos God designed ur life.

  7. You are a gold digger, in my opinion! Just because you’re reasoning is “noble” (you’re unborn children), it still doesn’t take away from the fact that you have the wrong priority in place. Money doesn’t equal a better life.

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