Recently, I started following this amazing ‘Uncle’ on twitter. He talks a lot of sense which is rare for young men these days. On this fateful day, he was involved in a conversation with a few others on twitter which led to him talking about relationships and what to look out for in a partner.
Because I think we should seek more to BE the right partner than find them, these ‘tests’ as he calls them come in handy in telling yourself the truth about how far you’ve come to being someone’s ‘MR or MS Right’. In my case, I quietly followed through all the tweets, judged myself in my closet and I must say I was thoroughly enlightened. And Oh, people started asking for a compilation of the tweets and he was kind enough to post them in his blog(www.highlandblue.wordpress.com). So with Uncle’s permission of course, I decided to share with the house. He titled it; Tell Me (Life test questions).
Life sets the test questions, I sit back and grade your scores
There’s the test of money. How long does money stay in your hand? Does it flee or does it come to you?
There’s the test of caring. Yes you care for me but is that your nature or you just doing a business transaction?
There’s the test of we against the world. If everyone in the world was against me and I was honestly innocent, would you stand by me?
There’s the test of physical attraction. Can your body talk to my body and we have an organic interaction full of soul?
There’s the test of maturity. What does external pressure do to you? Bring out the best or the worst?
There’s the test of ‘stayability’ and ‘finishability’. Do you finish your long term projects or you keep finding new short term ones? Cos we in this for the long haul
There’s the communication test too. When we fight, can you still understand what I’m saying or you blank out and lash out wildly?
There’s the independence test. You have a mind of your own or you just do what makes your parents, friends and family happy? Cos it’s hard enough being with you. I don’t want to be with the entire village
There’s the test of caution. Can you call me to order when I’m making a wrong decision? Cos I do make a lot of those
There’s the homemaker test. Can you run a home? Like supplies, logistics, bills, comfort, security and peace of mind?
There’s the test of adventure. If I wanted to go exploring, would you join me or discourage me for no valid reason?
There’s the emotional attraction test. Will you tell me all you feel and let me in or you’d say you’re fine when you’re not?
There’s the friends test. Who are your friends? Are they kind, successful and willing to help? Or parasites and bad influences? Cos I ain’t choosing your friends or controlling who you talk to. I just gotta guard the entrance to my life kingdom, thank you.
There’s the ambition test. Are you just settled for the mediocre? Or do you have a dream?
There’s the God-fearing test. If you were absolutely sure nobody was looking or would find out, who would you be?
Have these questions opened your eyes to anything you didn’t realize before? What do you think we missed out? Share your thoughts.
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Born & christened Temitope Ishola. Fast forward to 2013..Hi, I'm Tiana #InAnyOyiboAccent. I live in my head! Curious & Like to Share my Thoughts. Somewhere in between a tom-boy and a girly girl. Nature Lover. You can follow @TS_Tiana on Twitter & Visit http://allthingztiana.blogspot.com for more.